Fairly confident on game, terrified of sex

2018-09-08T10:47:13+00:00

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DrSleeper · 2018-09-08T11:10:16+00:00

If it’s a dating scenario and you want to be with her I’ve found vulnerability is fine if not attractive. Tell her you want her to enjoy it and you worry about satisfying her, preferably after sex. Don’t be needy or anything.

Bad sex happens at some point to most people, even experienced people. Good sex usually is a result of two people doing it together a few times and learning what makes each other tick.

Alex_O7 · 2018-09-08T11:53:01+00:00

If your problem is mainly due lack of endurance i could say view on the matter. Otherwise i could suggest you to be a giver in bed. If you portrait yourself as cocky then eat out pussy like a demon, make her come first with pre-sex so even if the sex will be kind of disappointment you will be able to save the day with making her coming first.

BlueIncal · 2018-09-08T16:54:11+00:00

I have adopted a single philosophy that has greatly help me reduce my anxiety in bed. She comes first .

Foreplay is a must, and when things progress you should go down on her. Watch some videos, and read articles on how to eat pussy properly and then do it. Also once you feel youve been down there for a long time, stay another 10 minutes. It helps to have music playing in the background as it will give you an idea as to how long youve been down on her. Of course you should also be gauging her responses, which are different from girl to girl.

If you manage really give her the feeling that you care about her satisfaction as much as yours, when you come back up she will want you to fuck her brains out, and any mediocrity in that will be made up for by the awesome blow job you just gave her.

aiyy · 2018-09-08T16:57:14+00:00

If you can get hard, that's half the battle. I struggled with that because I was so terrified of not getting hard that I never got hard.

Once that hurdle is done, foreplay, foreplay, foreplay. They love it, you love it. I love it a bit too much.

Talk a bit dirty, "I want you to ride my dick right now" or some shit. Get her riding your dick, slap her ass, pull her hair, titty action, etc. Switch positions if you want, whatever.

Ultimately listen to her. If she's a quiet starfish, best of luck. If she likes something more than another, stick with that.

Rubbing her clit is important too, if I'm fucking a girl on a chair or a couch or something, I just rub it however she likes it based on the noise she makes. It's all about listening and sticking to what you can tell she likes. It's a lot easier to listen than you think, so try not to be too worried. You'll know.

notathr0waway1 · 2018-09-08T15:13:45+00:00

This is a multilayered question. On the one hand, you could teach yourself to be dominant in bed. On the other hand, you could try different sexual roles while you are experimenting to figure things out. Finally, it's possible that your new cocky exterior is not an accurate reflection of your true self and your fears are due to you not being true to yourself.

Think about it, but most importantly, keep taking action. Going out and doing is far more noble than offering feedback on the internet.

Evan87688 · 2018-09-08T22:13:28+00:00

Dude, just go with the flow.

The key is not to doubt yourself. Enjoy yourself. Never doubt yoruself.

Do as much foreplay as possible if you find it fun. Learn learn learn.

You can handle it bro. You're scared because you think you can't handle it. You got to say it to yourself, i can handle it!

Ezarra · 2018-09-09T00:38:28+00:00

Look up articles and videos on how to make women orgasm if that's what you're talking about. Read up, watch videos and really try to visualize it and understand how it works, especially the anatomy. From what I've read, there's the clit, G-spot and prostate that can make her orgasm. Focus on the clit primarily and then the G-spot as you get better. Not sure if this is what you were worried about or something else.

Title	Fairly confident on game, terrified of sex
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Date	September 8, 2018 10:31 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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