What to do when you “fall in love” with a girl, but you know you can date more and maybe better women?

snaug · 2019-03-27T02:20:28+00:00

It sounds like you already have the ability to choose. If you're able to pull girls that you are falling in love with, it sounds like you fuckin made it bro. I don't know when RSD said that thing about being 40, but I think that's one of the most ridiculous concepts I've heard in a while. Scoff-worthy. Lol. I sorta doubt RSD actually said that, but honestly this PUA shit becomes bullshit really quickly, and this sentiment is a great example of it. If you've got a girl who you fucking love.... dude. You got her.

justinbeef · 2019-03-27T02:59:28+00:00

40? cmon man. Dont follow a rule on this thing and instead just decide on yourself. I'm reaching 30 soon and I have had many girls/flings before and just like you, recently I met this girl and she's amazing and everything (no slutty business or gold digging). Facing a dilemma of sticking with her or continue fooling around, I chose the former. Reason being I have seen alot of trashy girls in my life as a PUA and the right girl is very very rare to come by.

If you found someone amazing, don't let it go. It's like finding that one treasure in a dustbin full of trash and its not easy. Yes, we may have a lot of girls to choose but you should know most of them are trash.

And btw, why do you think they are amazing? Better find out more about them as most of them have some kind of secrets hiding from you. Snoop on their phones or anything, its better to find out earlier than to suffer later.

IgotCarasma · 2019-03-27T00:28:05+00:00

From your description, I had a different answer. After reading your post, I'd have to say RSD(?!) isn't the only way to do things; millions follow their heart and just go for it. If, along the way, things don't feel right, you either figure out together how to make it better, or go separate ways. I must mention that RSD isn't the be all end all; I'm concerned that the teaching gives men a false sense of being gods gift to women. If you were my son, I'd tell you to follow your heart, you're getting those feelings from her for a reason.

recyclablebanthas · 2019-03-27T04:32:46+00:00

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What to do when you “fall in love” with a girl, but you know you can date more and maybe better women?

If one is in a casual mode of dating (perfectly valid and fun), then there are things they can do to avoid confusing the issue emotionally.

If one wants a serious thing, then one of two things are possible here:

The feeling that there are "more and maybe better" women could mean that you're not really that into her.
You have been gaming so long and frequently that it's hard to turn it off because it's easy to get addicted to the hit of validation one gets from hooking up with a new one.

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.....I meet amazing girls and I feel that I want them to be my girlfriends, like for example Im dating a girl right now, shes hot and all, and I have a feeling I want her to be my gf, but RSD teaches me to never fall for this trap because you have to date alot until you grow up so when you are 40, you can pick who is the best.

It's interesting that they'd frame it this way, considering many of them don't seem to be at or over 40 yet.

In any case, only you can evaluate whether someone you're dating is GF material. Such a thing can be tricky to evaluate when you're in the middle of a casual dating spurt, though. Because screening for the quick connection and fun, and all that, is a great way to unintentionally screen out many of the better serious prospects.

You'd be the judge of that though. But if you're trying to draw a GF from the same crowds you have been drawing casual sex partners from, then you might have unintentionally stacked the deck against yourself when it comes to a serious relationship.

If you haven't spent at least 3-6 months out of the hunt, so to speak, it's hard to clear the palate, so to speak, so you can recognize something good. When it's a revolving door of girls and spinning all those plates, your calibration is set up different and sometimes healthier GF material prospects are even going to seem boring or crazy when you're used to fast stuff.

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So basically, logic is saying : Date more, Feelings are saying: My god be in a relationship with this woman.

Logic is arguably NOT saying date more. It's fear to say that you shouldn't settle down because of something possibly maybe better being over the horizon. This very line of Logic-Which-Is-Not-Really-Logic, is the very mindset that keeps a lot of people single in many larger cities.

How do I process this emotion?

First, it's important to realize that you've got dueling emotions here.

Whatever emotions are attached to the desire to explore a relationship with this woman.
Fear of missing out, basically.

The other outside possibility is that you are processing the feeling that something doesn't quite line up with this woman and you shouldn't date her seriously.

Only you could say really.

White_Mlungu_Capital · 2019-03-27T05:28:42+00:00

you basically need to have other side pieces while with her, it is the only way really.

It is a barrier many men take years to overcome, it requires skill to balance it and all.

Dilpil01 · 2019-03-27T07:21:56+00:00

Stop paying so much attention to RSD and think for yourself a bit mate. Make your own decisions based upon what you've learned.

RSD is good on a conceptual level but I promise you above everything Tyler wants you to think for yourself not be a sheep.

smokypoki · 2019-03-27T00:07:38+00:00

whats wrong with falling in love ?

Title	What to do when you “fall in love” with a girl, but you know you can date more and maybe better women?
Author	Bloxerbadge
Upvotes	10
Comments	31
Date	March 26, 2019 11:40 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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