So pics to show proof and not bullshitting.

Going to make this short but also need to get this off my chest to figure out what I might have done right or wrong!

Cliffs :-

  • First time ever going out, I am into health and fitness so not into clubbing pubbing and drinking, plus life long had the idea of 'those girls are "bad" '.

  • First time I ever went out solo to a club or a bar by myself at the age of 30, TODAY, like 4 hours ago.

  • Spoke to 4 brown girls, 4 white girls (this place was legit DEAD.) and maybe 3-4 more random and varied.

  • The brown chicks were totally into me I had escalated physically quite well and literally had my hand on their asses (and pretty much EVERYWHERE throughout the entire night.)

I started off the night by mixing it up, first the brown set, made some friends and introduced myself, then 2 italian girls but their group was fucking tough to crack though, they were SUPER cool up until their friends showed up after which they were pretty shut off to my advances.

So I went back to my home base group of the brown chicks that were open to having me there, and like I said before I was escalating HARD on this girl and she was TOTALLY fine with it and into me doing so.

 

Then I found this solo chick that I pulled.

So the whole shebang, she bought her own drink, we danced, we spoke forever, got to know each other quite well, I made sure to sexually escalate, had my hands on her and her on mine for a lot of the night.

Later I said we can go back to my place where in the car she drops on my that she has a boyfriend. Now I'm ever so slightly confused and fazed, why is she coming over to my place but telling me she has a bf. Whatever not my issue.

We get home, she says something for the first time about taking that same cab home instead of coming in, I say let's jam to some music and get a drink or two first. She comes in.

We get in, play some music, dance a bit and I escalate, but she now starts stopping/refusing my physical advances.

I'm like wtf? I OBVIOUSLY don't want to be that guy that forces any chick into anything whatsoever, but this is HELLA confusing. She's at my place, in my room, we've been physically escalating all night and now she doesn't want more?

Eventually she calls a cab and I let her off, I wanted to at least get a kiss out of the whole thing so I try a bit more but not I'm feeling bad about being the guy that is kind of going hard when a girl is at a strangers place, and I just stop and let her go. Final thing I said to her was to text me when she gets home, I have no clue if that's happened so far or not, but yeah.

So, what, if anything did I do wrong in this? Was there something I could have helped?

And what can I do to follow up with the previous Brown chick who I also escalated with BIG TIME, but later dumped to move on to this one? I'm assuming she's going to be feeling some shit about being passed on but how do I play that game safely and smoothly if possible?

Anyways, for my FIRST night out ever, and doing it after like 2 FUCKING YEARS, it was actually pretty fucking good!

EDIT w UPDATED THOUGHTS :-

Legit not even kidding when I say this, I maybe should have taken my shirt off at some point when I got home and we were getting comfortable. Could possibly have given the physique card an attempt to sway things in my direction quicker lol.

I couldn't figure out how to get anyone to chase me though, or maybe I just didn't have the confidence this first time to have them chase me or who knows. Like my value was high but I don't think I got any girl to chase me for much if anything.