I told her we should hang out, she invited me to go out with her group of friends which are mostly male, where does this leave me?

drdavidbanner20 · 2019-10-12T01:22:17+00:00

This leaves you as one of her buddies. Personally, I wouldn't go because the odds of anything happening with a bunch of buds (who likely want her as well) is small.

Ask her out directly for some other night. You'll know pretty quickly if she's interested.

Note: I would take the social circle game comment with a grain of salt. You'd have to be the most dominant/attractive guy there, which is very difficult unless you're a beast because it's all of HER friends. But I prefer one-on-one situations to get to know a girl without the distraction of others.

FrankyCastiglione · 2019-10-12T02:04:20+00:00

You should go, then leave because you have blahblahblah going on somewhere else.

You DHV by having other things to do than her lame events.

You only get her by showing her you have better things to do.

seannyt1 · 2019-10-11T22:35:53+00:00

This leaves you in a pretty great spot! Social circle game broski. NOTHING beats that. Come from a place of abundance and see this as a great way to meet other people, hopefully high status males and other attractive women.

GeckoVanderwahl · 2019-10-11T22:46:41+00:00

It sounds like it leaves you hanging out. Did you mean to ask her on a date?

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judahman8 · 2019-10-12T01:53:25+00:00

Well typically it's a terrible position to be in. You don't want to be in a position where she controls the social situation like this. I wouldn't have rejected the invite but I probably would of half ass accepted it and made it seem like it didn't really sound like fun but luckily I can have fun regardless of the situation.

Who cares what I would of done tho, what you do now is what matters. At first glance you have two options. Dominate the entire social situation or use a jealousy plotline. If you aren't the super fun outgoing social guy that everyone automatically likes then I woul avoid the social domination angle.

So then the jealousy plotline it is. You don't pay her much attention. Instead you have to display some passable game as early in the night as possible. Do this by opening a set that is just out of hearing distance if you aren't confident you can open and hook just about any set at will. All you have to do is run a little game on the hottest girl in the place and use your body language to show her that you ran the set well even if you didn't.

The easiest way to do this is to just use an opinion opener with a false time constraint, but only if you live in America. Use lively body language and then just roll off. It's really as easy as that. Just tease her a lot, be cool to all the other guys and if you can, go home with the hottest girl in the place instead.

axe122 · 2019-10-12T05:10:02+00:00

Don’t ever agree to group dates with her male or female friends and don’t invite her to group dates with your friends, you can’t build connection with her around other people. I made this mistake when I was younger and it never worked out well (maybe if your super good socially and the life of the party) because they all have inside jokes and shit unless your the total life of the party and can have them all hanging on your words you’ll end up slowly getting muscles out of the inside jokes and conversation leaving you sidelined (she don’t have enough experience with you to wanna defend you or have inside jokes of your own to fall into your frame when she’s out with her friends) this will just turn her off when she feels like bringing you out is like babysitting and she has to keep you entertained or involved in the conversation. I wasn’t terribly socially awkward or anything either I just wasn’t the life of the party and I could talk to people and have conversations but ultimately I couldn’t establish connection with her which is what I wanted to do and the whole point of spending time with her not her friends. Why put yourself in a situation you will have a ton of trouble winning in?

Title	I told her we should hang out, she invited me to go out with her group of friends which are mostly male, where does this leave me?
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Date	October 11, 2019 10:21 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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