Men over 40: Adjustments to The Approach?

MichaelBravo · 2019-11-07T21:29:44+00:00

Um, remembering to refill the Cialis prescription (and/or keep V-tabs on hand).

I had to resort to a hand job the other day as I just couldn't fuck PIV with a condom as I'd missed Cialis for a few days and didn't have Viagra on hand. This might seem like not a big deal, but I don't particularly like Viagra so that means taking Cialis every day even when you're not likely to fuck because otherwise you do get that chance and you're stuck.

I have to be mindful of who actually likes being with older men and who is gold digging or looking for a sugar.
This isn't super difficult, but there's gray areas...

I have to be careful with hot women over 30 who I wouldn't mind dating/fucking because too many times they realize that I chase the 18-25 set and that's an instant turn off generally speaking and gets me shut down right away. Not the end of the world, but sometimes variety is nice.

Approaches....18 year olds who are approached by 50+ year old men are going to be creeped out most of the time.

However, 18 year olds (and younger) approach me often enough. This is probably the biggest change in the game for being older.

I never want to appear as creepy (never want to be creepy) but I like fucking/dating and being in relationships with women much younger than me. For the 35 +/- age range, the fact that I'm 53 doesn't matter in most cases, nobody gives a fuck, but when you go sub-30 it gets stickier.

When in bars/clubs my general policy is to attempt eye contact with anyone I want to approach, if they divert their eyes, I move on. If they maintain a bit of eye contact and smile, I'll see if I can get closer, re-engage, and then approach in some way (often it's just to start dancing with them).

If they eye-ball fuck me I know I'm good...last time that happened we were kissing in ten minutes and I pulled her back to my place about an hour later.

What it means, at least for me, is that a lot of the standard gaming shit doesn't work because if other women in the club see you cold approach a bunch of chicks and get turned down, you're social value is about zero.

So there's a lot more patience involved.

And frustration as my success rate is shit compared to if I went after older women, but it is what it is.

For Tinder (or Insta or FB) it's probably not so much different because to get a match and/or a friend request and/or a like on an insta post, you know she's not hung up on age. I got a "like" last night from an Insta follower while I was out at a bar with a friend (I took a picture of the place we were at) and instantly messaged her, she replied, I asked her if she'd like to have drinks next week, and she said yes, so similarly to waiting in clubs for eye contact, I wait until someone engages first.

Sandvicheater · 2019-11-07T21:15:08+00:00

30-40s should be the prime time of a man's life where he's killing it with the ladies. Provided that he's fit, child free and relatively (think BMW not mansion) wealthy.

I personally know couple 40 y/o who is ask I described above able to land girls in their 20s.

IntrepidFoot · 2019-11-07T21:28:17+00:00

Hottest girls are usually 18, and they get difficult once you're over like 25, but still possible if you open enough of them in my experience!!

In terms of opening, It depends what age group you're going for. If much younger, I'd advise more indirect.

If you're going for girls within your age group, I don't think it matters and you don't really need to adapt whatever style of game works for you

FrankyCastiglione · 2019-11-07T20:47:23+00:00

Imo, Game is universal.

Title	Men over 40: Adjustments to The Approach?
Author	HanEyeAm
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Date	November 7, 2019 8:33 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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