Advice on starting a conversation?

scarrax · 2019-12-19T22:31:28+00:00

For starters, girls in online dating tend to have loads of messages from would-be suitors. The problem? Most of these messages are cliche "Hey", "How you doin?", "Hey beautiful", "You're cute", "Nice boobs/ass", "Bobs and Vagene", "[dick pick] Like what you see?". None of these messages actually stand out at all, so she'll feel less inclined to actually fish through them all.

The real thing is to try and think outside the box and do something that will catch her attention. For example, one girl had a purple streak in her hair and said she liked wine and sushi so I made a cheesy rhyme rhyming "fine" with "sushi and wine", and it actually got me a date.

Or if her bio is blank, ask "Hey what's your bio?" This worked as well.

Nothing works 100% of the time, and you don't need to try too hard. When going for an opener think of something that A) stands out from what you'd expect she mostly gets, B) isn't cringey as fuck and C) actually challenges her to answer in a meaningful way.

educationaler · 2019-12-19T22:06:18+00:00

Every dating app is the same intention: meet someone you’re interested in. The point of texting isn’t to get to know someone, it is to set up a date in person.

How to do that exactly?

Let’s say you just got their phone number.

Text them “Hey! This is [Name]. It was nice meeting you. Have a good night :)”

Then later on, simple as this: “Hey, I’m going to [event]. Would you be available to join?”

Then you’re on.

arkadylaw · 2019-12-20T16:42:50+00:00

Here are a few tips on starting a conversation on a dating app:

Look at her pictures and at what she wrote about herself. You might find a very useful information there to start a conversation with. For instance, if she says she likes traveling or reading - ask her what she is reading now, or ask her what her most memorable traveling destination so far was. If she says she is down to earth, ask her what being down to earth means to her. If one of her pictures has been taken at a very exotic destination, try to guess where it is and ask her how far off you are with your guess. If she criticizes something about a society that really resonates with you, tell her that you can relate. For instance, if she says that she is an old soul and she likes old music and movie, you can say: "Who can blame you for liking older things, since they were so much better for the most part..."
How to talk about your interest - ideally, you want to list a few things you like to do and not text back and forth about it for too long, but instead take your conversation away from the app and to a phone call or a meeting in person. For instance, if you like to play tennis, post a picture of yourself with a racket. If she asks you how often you play or where you play, you can briefly answer and then move to suggesting that you speak on the phone or meeting in person after 2-3 messages back and forth.
Avoid sending weak messages with cliche statements that every other person makes and which are totally pointless, such as "how is your day going?", "how was your weekend", etc., as this will make a woman lose interest in you quicker than anything else.

navup12 · 2019-12-20T06:40:55+00:00

Lol buddy i am good with the online convos but totally noob at face to face convos any tips for that ?

Shadow__Account · 2019-12-20T08:37:02+00:00

I mostly throw in random statements as opposed to questions, forget about rules. don't think about logic too much.

I view it like this, like another poster said most questions are boring as fuck. So i bring value, by statements , by stories, by telling/ showing things about me.

The first task is to get her invested in the conversation. So you give out a little value, a little joke. And after you start implementing more and more game in these openers and statements.

Hey i just got released from jail this morning and i don't have a place to stay yet, how about we skip the small talk and the first date stuff. Can i come over now?

This would be something i would open with. There is so much more to it than "hey how was your weekend?"

I am immediatly not admirer #232 anymore, i might be that weird guy, she might take it a little to seriously and she might wonder if im a creepy guy, i might be that funny guy. Is this guy serious? I don't like this joke it's disrespectful! She will probably go through your pictures again to see what kind of guy says these things.

Whatever. she's invested now there are emotions being triggered and you will have an opening, which if you get decent is all you need.

Now analyze the answer and keep stacking if needed. So if she says, "that's not funny"

I would say something like, if we were in a relationship you'd get no sex tonight and would be sleeping on the couch.

Some of the higher quality girls need like 4/5 fucking stacking statements like this before they finally drop their shield and open up.

Its a fucking symphony of analyzing and adapting, it can seem like an impossible task, but you get better at it and you can start using the same sort of lines and when they finally "break" you are that super interesting guy they are dying to meet in real life as opposed to #232 hey how was your weekend Linda?

Title	Advice on starting a conversation?
Author	NewGuy45247
Upvotes	25
Comments	19
Date	December 19, 2019 9:42 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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