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[–]throwaway487921 10 points11 points12 points 6 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
Yeah I see where my thought process is flawed. I do tend to overthink and imagine stuff a lot. Also I’ve never done this and I’m still working on my confidence which is why I am worried about stepping out of both of our comfort zones.
When I said “too risky”, I was thinking along the lines of stuff that is overly sexual and would most likely get a negative response. Stuff like “I want to eat you out”, which people on this sub have non-jokingly told me to say.
That said, the advice you gave is exactly what I was looking for. I can definitely hold conversation with her and most girls, but it’s just those small things that I didn’t really know about besides physical contact that I wanted to learn.
Thank you very much.
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[–]throwaway487921 4 points5 points6 points 6 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
I really liked the “You look different” line so I’m definitely going to use it. For physical stuff I mean I’m obviously going to hug her when I see her, but I’m not used to doing other kinds of physical contact.
I feel like I could test the waters by just getting really close with her when we’re walking. And I guess the benefit of going to the mall after lunch is that if she’s responsive to what I’m doing before then, there’s a better chance of getting to hand -holding I guess.
Speaking of hand-holding, how do I go about initiating that? Like I’m kinda nervous about it because if she doesn’t like it then it’s just going to kill the mood, and I have to drive her back too.
As for eye-contact and innuendo, could you explain that a little bit further? Thanks.
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[–]throwaway487921 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Got it, no holding hands. Also, our plans kinda changed just now. I won't be picking her up since she needs to run errands after, which makes some of the stuff you suggested I do that don't involve talking/eye contact a little harder to work in.
We're going to meet in the parking lot so maybe while we're walking I could hold her waist or something. The errands also mess up going to the mall but I'll see if its still possible. But lunch is still the same so I'll have some stuff to work with there.
[–]TheIglooBoy 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Reading this, I literally got a virtual fwb in my mind.
[–]ffriendzone 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
this guy fucks
only thing i would personally do differently is to be a little more upfront about your intentions to her and to yourself - maybe call it a date. good luck !
[–]Drygord 7 points8 points9 points 6 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Vibe itself? Definitely take up some form of fighting art. You will emanate a “don’t fuck with me” air which signals to men not to mess with you and signals to women that you are a sexual threat.
[–]throwaway487921 1 point2 points3 points 6 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Lmao I’ve been doing martial arts for the past several years but I don’t have the stature to back it up. But if you’re saying “carry yourself more confidently” I’ve been working on that and I think I’ve improved in that area.
I guess I should specify things like physical contact and the type of things to say that produce the vibe I’m looking for.
[–]Drygord 8 points9 points10 points 6 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Okay, to produce a vibe you need to learn sexual communication and speak it. Example:
I was around several co-workers and one of them, a super cute blonde and the prettiest of them all, was eating something and spat it out in the trash. I said “Funny- you always struck me as the swallowing type”. She laughed, got flushed red in the face and swat my arm calling me a “jerk”.
Let’s translate this into sexual communication:
Me: “I’m a high value male demonstrating my social wit and understanding of male-female attraction dynamics because I want to fuck you”
Her: “I want to fuck you too”.
It’s that simple. Be cocky, but be funny at the same time. Bust her balls a little. You have to truly not give a damn what others think.
If you have her giggling, calling you a jerk and swatting your arm you’re well on your way.
[–]throwaway487921 1 point2 points3 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Ok I see what you mean. It’s also not too far off from my personality when I’m with closer friends, so I feel like I could at something well-timed and witty that establishes the kind of dynamic I’m looking for. Thanks for the advice!
[–]Drygord -2 points-1 points0 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yup we all have it within us! Just a matter of practice.
For physical escalation it’s the same thing basically except done physically. Think of push-pull, give and take, like a cat playing with a string. If you just hand the cat the string it will stare at it and be bored. If you dangle it and pull it away the cat will go wild and chase it. Same with the pussy. That’s why cats are called pussy cats. Same thing.
Example, make up some bullshit about anything. “Did you know there’s actually a bone on your skull that is reptilian in nature? Let me show you.” Get close to her, touch her head and play with her hair while making up some bullshit, then smell her hair. “Mmmm your hair smells good. I love girls who don’t shower”.
It’s a compliment and come on but a dis at the same time. Vocal tone is very important as well. Subcommunication. Cocky+funny.
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[–]throwaway487921 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I’m going to establish at least basic physical contact by hugging her when I first see her. Then when we’re walking or wherever I’ll start by just walking really close to her, so that at least our arms are touching. If she doesn’t move away from me, I’ll take it a small step further by putting my arm on her waist or something.
Actually, I might be able to start that right off the bat by opening the car door for her and kinda holding my right arm out in line with my back so that she walks in front of it while I’m holding her side. I hope you can visualize what I’m saying.
Hand holding may be a little too much at the start but later on if she’s responding well then I’ll go for it.
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[–]GenderEnlightenment -1 points0 points1 point 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Express sexual desire — directly, indirectly, with your facial expressions ...
Treat a girl like she's "just a friend" and she probably will be — unless she secretly likes you, in which case treating her like "just a friend" will drive her crazy (in a good way).
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