I thought I would share what I did during last semester in terms of cold approach. During the day, I did

120 approaches,

got 41 numbers,

had 5 instadates

and 10 dates.

I kissed 3 girls on those dates.

At night I did 7 approaches and got 1 number.

Learning to talk slowly in the moment despite anxiety was the most helpful thing I learned. I believe it helped me and the girl calm down. If I talked fast, it was more likely she would get uncomfortable. I also feel like I can have a conversation with anybody. I know how to keep it going, even if the other person isn't giving me a lot to work with. Now when I'm with friends or talking to people in class, I can talk my ass off. Sometimes I have more things in mind I want to say than I have time for. That is probably a result of cold approach, and just being more social in general. But the thing about cold approach, is that it's much more your responsibility to keep the conversation going.

I learned I should also plan dates that are longer and more fun. I think if a girl goes on a date with you, she's clearly interested in you. They should all end positively. Having a very fun, somewhat long date gives yourself a better chance of that happening. It gives the girl more time to build a connection with you.

I also realized through reading my journal that if I have 1 or 2 bad interactions, I can easily start to feel like shit. I'll start over-analyzing and thinking of other things I should be doing. Or I get really bored. I should save the analysis for later and just focus on having fun. Half the days, I only did 1 or 2 approaches. I could get a lot more done if I did 6 approaches in 1 hour not 1 approach every day over 6 days. Consistency is important, but you can't learn much from 1-2 approaches. You need a big sample size to learn what works and what is luck. I had slightly more success outside of cold approach, but that mostly had to do with being in the right place in the right time with the right mindset. Cold approach is a good way to work on my mindset, which helps when I happen to be around girls in other situations.