Has anyone else struggled with people thinking you’re gay? If so, how can I fix this issue.

Shartgun_ · 2020-02-04T20:59:32+00:00

Be more bold with your advances at the beginning, if they know your sexually interested in them earlier, that thought might be addressed before they have to address it.

Nick_Mundo · 2020-02-04T21:04:51+00:00

You could try making yourself appear more masculine by the clothing you wear, it could help you develop a more authoritative presence.

Ultra-Magnus1 · 2020-02-04T21:23:43+00:00

i've gotten that a few times. not because of my voice but because i'm "too neat" it seems... i don't wear sloppy clothes like most rugged dudes. i trim my goatee or beard like a GQ model. my shoes actually shine, i put gel in my hair and give it some style. i can dance, and i don't drink beer much if at all... i guess all of that compels them to ask. i simply say "no i'm not" and they get more intrigued or get disappointed. it doesn't bother me as i'm not about to become some slob for their viewing pleasure.

quinnmcd · 2020-02-04T21:45:12+00:00

I've had this problem before.

you can't let get to you. most people that ask are either closed-minded or ignorant. Gay or not they shouldn't care.

The guidelines below will help you broadcast power

through your voice.

Speak slowly. Visualize the contrast between a

nervous, squeaky teenager speaking at high speed

and the slow, emphatic tone of a judge delivering a

verdict.

verdict.

Pause. People who broadcast confidence often

pause while speaking. They will pause for a second

or two between sentences or even in the middle of a

sentence. This conveys the feeling that they’re so

confident in their power, they trust that people won’t

interrupt.

Drop intonation. You know how a voice rises at the

end of a question? Just reread the last sentence and

hear your voice go up at the end. Now imagine an

assertion: a judge saying “This case is closed.” Feel

how the intonation of the word closed drops.

Lowering the intonation of your voice at the end of a

sentence broadcasts power. When you want to

sound superconfident, you can even lower your

intonation midsentence.

Check your breathing. Make sure you’re breathing

deeply into your belly and inhale and exhale through

your nose rather than your mouth. Breathing through

your mouth can make you sound breathless and

anxious.

That's an excerpt from the book charisma myth (I highly recommend it) he helps with speaking with confidence. you can learn how to do things like control your tone you make your voice seems deeper (I can't find the excerpt about holding your nose to make your voice sound deeper).

3) Get rid of bad posture habits. not cross your feet when you stand, crossing your legs when you sit or Touching your face. Work on masculine body language: head up, shoulders back and back straight. Work on walking with better posture as well.

4) Be more aggressive and let more "alpha" men influence you. Just projecting more confidence helps.

Like I said before I experience the same thing and I've learned to accept who I am. I don't recommend changing your style or anything about yourself if you're happy with who you are. Yes, I know it is frustrating, but not everyone is meant to like you. Appearing more masculine will help to get more women, but the best women accept you for who you are.

epic_pig · 2020-02-04T21:47:15+00:00

Agree and amplify. Make it part of your schtick

terrywatts09 · 2020-02-04T23:15:15+00:00

Fuck there mom or sister or even brother and say no homo

axe122 · 2020-02-05T03:07:50+00:00

If your vibing with a girl like you say and she says that say nothing look her in the eyes and kiss her. Then you could say does that answer your question? Or you could just leave it hanging after and wait for her to say something about it.

The ballsier you are the more receptive women are. You gotta know where that line is between overstepping their boundaries is but for most guys on this sub they aren’t even close to overstepping they are way too nice and overly respectful to the point they never make the interaction man to woman or they wait to long and once she’s placed you in that plutonic side of her brain your gonna stay their unless you can make her jealous and trigger her fear of loss.

Be a little more aggressive and make the interactions man to woman.

Lord_Augastus · 2020-02-05T04:28:39+00:00

I have met men who acted soft, sweet and beta with a higher voice and I made the mistake of thinking they are gay (i am a man). Its partly the social stigma that current social change will evolve, give it time. But if you want to be taken seriously and not confused for a gay, be more direct but not creepy. Show sexual as well as emotional intent in the girl. If you approach straight up and flirt, you can avoid being mislabeled because your friendly is clearly too similar to a flamboyant gay man, so if you just change your approach and initial display of interest things will change. But ont try to be something you are not.

2020-02-06T01:59:50+00:00

I had this for a while a few years back. I had women trying to get with me because I was a challenge

Someone183629 · 2020-02-04T21:30:41+00:00

Use a comeback like I’m as straight as the pole your mom dances on. Your should be able to find lots of comebacks like that on reddit or the internet.

2020-02-05T03:06:06+00:00

1: go to doctor get t levels checked, if low then get on TRT.

2: lift

3: lift more

4: don’t skip legs

5: don’t be vegan / vegetarian

6: stop wear tight clothing, it looks gay, seriously if gay dudes wear it it thus looks gay. Unless it’s north eastern preppy Ralph Lauren look, but you gotta have money to pull that off. But really stop your clothing style is probably 100% gay, especially those tight jeans.

7: get jacked

8: you have a wispy voice. But you can fix that by forcing your force slightly lower you’ll eventually have a lower voice (that and the boost from getting jscked as faurk will do it)

9: now i emphasize getting jacked, why though....make yourself look like someone who can kill someone. Dangerous. Bitches melt one that shit....to do that you have to do everything else first

10: talk less, talk slower.

Title	Has anyone else struggled with people thinking you’re gay? If so, how can I fix this issue.
Author	heyeveryonewhatsup
Upvotes	8
Comments	18
Date	February 4, 2020 8:45 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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