Growing up I was extremely passive and weak, the typical nice guy, safe to say I didn't get laid by being nice. If you act like a bitch, I'm sorry but you will be treated as such, especially by women. They'll happy suck up emotional value from you, let you pine over them and treat you like shit while being a sweet darling to the guy she's actually sleeping with. At some point I just fucking lost it and stopped being nice all the time, I started really taking a hard look at what made men attractive. Guess what, it's not fucking looks, money or being nice, the guys that believe that are losers, literal bottom of the barrel dregs. The modern day right of passage is dating and these men are choosing not to participate. They are choosing not to mature into men through hardship and adversity, there are plenty of videos of these men on youtube, they act like adult children and it's the most unappealing and unattractive thing you will ever see.

Some videos to show you what you'll end up like if you don't egage with life's challenges:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HfwPL-bd_mk

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BrNABxwP5kg&t=3496s

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sJ8EAwRauoM

And a video that shows both losers and winners and the differences between them:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=elrnAl6ygeM

I suggest you watch them all as it's a rare glimpse into the life of male losers who chose not to take risks. There isn't a lack of these men either, especially in todays day and age, in life their are winners and losers and it's about time we stopped pretending that being a loser is anything other than living a life of complete hell.

I see posts on here all the time of guys asking whether rejection is really worth it, it's a fucking joke, rejection is a requirement for success. You choose to sacrifice your relationship with a small portion of women so you can have success with others. Rejection shouldn't be an issue because it's something you should be going through all the time, if she chooses not to be a part of your life then she's the one missing out not you.

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  • Purpose: Attractive men are on a fucking mission in life and they don't care what people think about it, they have taken the time to really consider what kind of life they want, what matters to them and they dedicate themselves to making that a reality. As men it's easy to think women view attraction in the same way we do but evolutionary speaking that's not true. Women look at a man's potential more than anything and are great at spotting weak men who will not be able to succeed.
  • Passionate: Attractive men are passionate, we have higher testosterone which means we get fired up when talking about topics that interest us. Women love to hear you talk passionately about something, whether it's your hobby or an injustice you witnessed, if it pisses you off or brings you joy, talk about it to your woman and let those emotions come to the surface. I love photography and shoot on film, I'm always going to have fun introducing a girl to that hobby of mine, talking about why certain film looks better or how I develop and scan them in.
  • Assertiveness: Attractive men are quick to challenge those they think are doing wrong in a healthy way, they see the value in raising issues now rather than letting the problem get worse over time. Instead of sitting their with all of their opinions pined up they put it out into world and let others sweat over it. This includes their woman, teasing is like the baby brother of assertiveness but if you really want to get a girl to look at you as a man and not a boy, you need to call her out on stuff you won't accept. For example, a girl I met rejected an offer do go on a date with me but wanted to continue being friends, I told her that she's way too special of a person for me to just sit on the sidelines, I'm not that kind of guy, I won't be passive and inactive, I'll keep trying, so if she doesn't want that then we should stop seeing each other. I stopped messaging her and a week later I received a message from her. She started chasing me after rejecting me.
  • Confidence: Unfortunately this word has been basterdized by phony self-help guru's who don't know shit. Attractive men don't stifle or restrict what they act/feel/say, that is the essence of what confidence is. You know that what you have to say has value and if someone can't see that then that's their problem. You express yourself authentically, if you feel pissed off, you communicate it to the world around you, if you feel aroused by a girl, you communicate that through your words and action. You're never worried about others opinions because you are self-assured and have no issues expressing yourself. Again the important thing is that you stop worrying about what the world thinks of you, you should know that you have value, it's everyone elses loss if they dont see that.