Don’t approach a girl like you want to date her, approach a girl like you want to meet her as a friend

optimal981 · 2020-10-14T16:41:56+00:00

Why can't you talk to her like a normal human and build attraction at the same time? Also, you've never tried this but are so sure it will work? Good seduction doesn't look like much from afar, but the two people experiencing can feel it. That's what you want to be doing, not this "How are you? Wonderful weather we having" BS.

erect_sean · 2020-10-14T18:26:16+00:00

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BurnItDownSR · 2020-10-14T19:49:17+00:00

We're not gonna hate on you because we disagree with being friendly. We're hating on you because you're giving half-baked advice that you haven't even tested!

You explained things like a movie scene that cuts from hi straight to getting her number as if nothing happens in between.

You do know that there are people here who give advice that they've not only tested hundreds of times but some even get paid for it, right?

silentgangster · 2020-10-14T18:07:06+00:00

It’s funny how you haven’t used this method but still wrote about it... anyways this really does work. Friendzone them before they friendzone you. Make them chase you

ta69999 · 2020-10-14T18:11:05+00:00

Ok yes in theory it should work, but I advise you that if you do this super friendly approach, that if you even get the first date, you SHOULD ESCALATE. Slowly but nonetheless escalate it or else you're just gonna be the friendly guy forever. Of course, if the girl is super into you already it's not going to matter but that is going to be rare. So yes this is good advice but you'll have to escalate early on. Or else you'll fuck yourself over.

2020-10-14T19:28:17+00:00

No no no no no hell no!!!!!

Psychological_Sea996 · 2020-10-14T17:44:10+00:00

This works if you want a bunch of girls as friends. Long as you know they will never sleep with you.

nibbleskat · 2020-10-14T17:36:13+00:00

Definitely love this advice, as a woman I'd treasure a friend more than "hey, let's fuck."

decapitate_the_rich · 2020-10-14T18:49:29+00:00

This is the approach I have always tried to go for, but not sure how to use this and not get friend-zoned.

tibles20 · 2020-10-14T19:45:32+00:00

I do that but then i stay in the friend zone

DankCommander7 · 2020-10-14T19:46:39+00:00

Lol yea if you want alot of new friends with women go for that. Women may treasure sexless relationships with men for some reason. I myself want a sexless freindship with a women about as much as id want a tumor.

RoadToVictory1000 · 2020-10-14T20:02:10+00:00

That's a sticky one. I get what your saying in terms of the mindset but in practice I think it's better to be upfront. Don't friend zone yourself.

RoadToVictory1000 · 2020-10-14T20:04:02+00:00

You see your not "just some other dude" seducing them if they're interested in you. Don't think for them. Be honest and true with your intentions. Saves yourself time and being let down in the future.

Ovbiously_anon · 2020-10-14T20:25:10+00:00

I see your point but you are risking being friendzoned, obviously if it helps you then don’t worry about it but for me you have to go into it like you are attracted to her. My tip is too make jokes and give them compliments. Even like “ I like your top, looks good on you.” Can get you so they know that you’re interested in a more intimate relationship. You then read their body language from there. If they are open you then create physical contact like a brush on the shoulder. But make sure they are being open because otherwise it can feel weird for both of you.

People are weird so whatever happens it’s just a learning experience.

Amikatey · 2020-10-14T20:33:21+00:00

The very fact that you cold approach... Means you want atleast.. ''ya naw'' so no need hidden intentions or verbally and openly saying ''hey, come bend over let's do it here''.. Just have a conversation and focus on turning her on in the interaction and BOOOMM.. you get to decide if she will be ''THE ONE'' or the freind.

Title	Don’t approach a girl like you want to date her, approach a girl like you want to meet her as a friend
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	64
Comments	31
Date	October 14, 2020 3:28 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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