Do you think porn is detrimental to the modern man? And in what regards?

Psychological_Sea996 · 2020-10-14T22:04:32+00:00

I have a huge problem with it. Watched it a lot when I was younger. When I finally lost my virginity, I couldn’t get off because I jacked off to it so much. And it makes you have unrealistic expectations of the female figure. The sex isn’t realistic either. So when you get an actual girl in your bed and she doesn’t perform the way the girls in your videos do you don’t crave actual sex. Master bating in general I feel is detrimental Instead of you fulfilling your biological drive to mate by having sex with a girl, you fulfill it with your hand. Horrible for motivation

Resident_Two6041 · 2020-10-14T23:09:20+00:00

Its bad for you, if you want to improv your life i suggest to stop completely, It really does nothing good for you in the long run. And i hope you are aware of sexual energy and the power to transmute that energy and put that in stuff you want to achieve in life and realites you wish to experience.

financeer24 · 2020-10-15T00:48:19+00:00

Porn fucks with a lot of guys dopamine system, which is what basically gives a man his motivations/ambitions. Why go out and seek women, when you can stimulate your reward system with a few clicks. With that said, masturbation and porn isn't always synonymous. You can still do it without looking at porn.

sunshineandhail · 2020-10-14T23:28:12+00:00

Female opinion - Watching porn in moderation isn’t a bad thing imo.

Just a couple of things to remember...(from a woman’s point of view) - very few women look like that, most porn stars have been nipped,tucked, waxed and bleached to within an inch of their life - most “porn star” sexual positions don’t actually feel that good (they do it for the visual) so don’t use it as a reference guide for how to “fuck good” - most (nearly all) women do not come that hard, that many times and most likely not from penetrative sex alone - you don’t need to last as long as a porn star, we will not appreciate it! - AND MAYBE MOST IMPORTANT * If you are going to cum on a woman’s face you damn well better ask her first!*

They say men watch porn and women read it (I’m generalising I know) so my advice is read some romance books. You aren’t that guy so don’t expect women to be that porn star. You realise pretty quickly that neither are realistic or even that healthy tbh.

Also should add for the men: we don’t expect you to be porn stars either. Technique and effort make up for size, trust me! And we aren’t expecting (or even wanting) 7 positions for 70 minutes.

It’s only detrimental if you take porn to be your reference for what healthy sex looks like. If you use it occasionally to get off then that’s fine. Try watching some homemade porn as well from actual couples, they have real bodies, real reactions and real intimacy.

ProFriendZoner · 2020-10-14T22:20:38+00:00

As with anything, it can be. And some people with no or lacking in social skills will use it as a replacement for interaction with others, that's a huge problem.

WindJammer27 · 2020-10-15T00:10:23+00:00

I've met a lot of women who say they've been with guys who tried something awful in bed that he probably picked up from porn. And there are a lot of guys now who prefer jacking off to porn over having actual sex. I don't think porn itself is bad, but I think modern guys are overdosing on it.

twenty7andAthird · 2020-10-15T07:38:51+00:00

Jon Ronson has a fantastic podcast about this called The Butterfly Effect. In it he details the link between free streaming porn and a rise in sexual dysfunctions in younger people, particularly men.

TheLastCoagulant · 2020-10-15T05:07:46+00:00

You might look back and wish you watched less porn.

You’ll never look back and wish you watched more porn.

Marathoner715 · 2020-10-14T23:46:28+00:00

I'll say that I'm glad it's available because there are many times in which I would have allowed my penis to lead me to some pretty undesirable women and sleeping with a 2 is way worse for your self esteem than spending the night alone.

Obvi, avoid the addictive behavior, but I would say that once in a while especially to help you relax is not a bad idea.

saltyman420 · 2020-10-15T12:49:09+00:00

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alwaysmooth · 2020-10-15T17:02:40+00:00

100% YES. There are TONS of research showing porn in any form is a supernormal stimulus which absolutely wrecks your brain chemistry over the long term. It can give you ED, screw up your relationships, and ruin your sex life. This isn't some Christian right wing conspiracy --there are books about this. One of the leading ones is "Your Brain On Porn". Goes into all the science of dopamine desensitization, addiction, etc. You should quit porn as soon as you can. I recommend checking out easypeasymethod.org for help. You'll wish you had quit years ago.

2020-10-14T21:55:35+00:00

Everyone here is gonna tell you not to watch porn but I don’t think there’s a problem with it personally

2020-10-14T22:58:41+00:00

Can be, just depends on how you use it

This0neTime23 · 2020-10-15T02:00:01+00:00

It's only a problem insofar as you let it become one. If you lack self restraint when it comes to things that make you feel good, then you might fuck yourself up. You become dependent on it and watch too much and it will stop doing it for you. It's the same as any other kind of hedonism, it exploits your reward system. Also remember that it's fantasy and useful stress relief valve when needed. If you find yourself not thinking about it much, don't reflexively look for it.. Avoid making it super routine and watch it when you really crave it and you should be fine

Captain_w00t · 2020-10-15T11:11:28+00:00

Just like with drugs and many other things, you should always keep in mind the difference between "use" VS "abuse".

Some porn and some masturbation is not a problem. Doing it excessively and the taking it as the only source of pleasure is unhealty and will change your perspective about sex, relationships, women, etc...

It's like those people who watch holliwood movies and think that real life works the same. Or those people that can't have fun without coke and MDMA anymore.

Avoid it if you can, you won't lose anything after all.

kalz44 · 2020-10-15T21:45:42+00:00

Porn disrupts sexual motivation. Why would you try an meet someone when you can just watch porn?

Title	Do you think porn is detrimental to the modern man? And in what regards?
Author	saltyman420
Upvotes	14
Comments	34
Date	October 14, 2020 9:43 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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