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[–][deleted] 24 points25 points26 points 5 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link
Legit just get used to talking to people in general not just girls. Strike up conversations and make little jokes and be playful with people. True seduction skills arise from experience not reading what works for other guys.
[–]timei5ticking 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
True... But I need to know where I am going wrong. I can talk without a break when people ask something but end up asking boring interview questions when talking to them.
So even if I approach someone within minutes I am the guy doing most of the talking.
[–][deleted] 3 points4 points5 points 5 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Could be that they’re just not interested bud 🤷🏽♂️ is it only girls or anyone that this happens with?
[–]timei5ticking 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Everyone lol. I am not a quiet guy but more of a talkative kind. I am not good at making other talk but good at talking myself. (Sometimes make people feel that I don't care about them and only care about me)
[–][deleted] 3 points4 points5 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Then you should try asking questions that don’t have short answers to them such as: ‘’what are your hobbies?’’ ‘’Do you believe aliens are real?’’ ‘’What is your life’s dream/goal?’’ Its def not good to talk about yourself too much especially with girls. The more mystery you leave for them, the more interested they’ll be as they’ll want to learn more and more about you ;)
[–]old_newb 3 points4 points5 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
A technique that helps is to actually listen when they talk. Repeat something back that they said. Rephrase it, restate it, or just say "what stood out to me was...". Or "you mentioned..." People like it when they know you actually heard them. Then compliment what they said, show interest in it, or share a similarity with what they said. Then ask a follow up that expands on the subject. Give them a chance to go deeper and find out why they view things the way they do, and what makes them who they are. If you're actually interested it's easy. And this works for talking to anyone, not just for game.
Don't bounce around topics too much or it feels boring and like a terrible interview.
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Practice seductive language. Learn how to make compelling word choices. And don’t talk a million miles a minute. Imagine you’re in bed with her already. Be languid, lazy and a little bit poetic. Don’t be excessive with it...that will just come off as strange. But a touch here, a flourish there, and a whiff of lazy confidence? Yeah.
[–]huh274 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Look, if what you’re doing isn’t working, adjust, and then evaluate your change.
It’s part art form, part science. You make a small change like, asking different or more personal questions or telling a couple of jokes, stick with it, see the results and either readjust or keep the change. Don’t make more than one or two changes before adding another, and don’t forget that the changes must be repeatedly used in order to evaluate because every girl is different but being charming can still be a general trend over several interactions.
Over time, several small adjustments will accumulate and you can be a machine.
But even better is if you learn why your adjustments worked, because then you can be the charming person as a second nature after internalizing it. Knowing people like to talk about themselves but not “where do you work” but instead “why do you work there” is a way to open things up. Knowing people have a history that makes them who they are is a way to figure them out and share yourself if you relate in any way.
Ymmv
[–]timei5ticking 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You have any real life examples of someone like that(celebs, hosts, etc), I need to find a balance between being playful and looking like a buffoon.
[–]McWhiters9511 10 points11 points12 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
life's not a video game. you don't "raise skills" to increase chances. just get out there and practice. only experience will improve your game. reading and videos may give you ideas or confidence but it won't help you with experience.
So without experience though you might know what to say, at that moment you will forget it?
[–]s3xymom 3 points4 points5 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Book recommendation: The Like Switch
Thanks
[–]Illiteratap 3 points4 points5 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Add some humor, don’t be afraid to seem silly sometimes. Bonus tip: practise outstanding hygiene. (If she picks up that you smell well, more often than not she will, she’s more likely to see what you’re about from up close)
Smelling well is like an extra layer on top of your looks, what you gotta say and confidence.
[–]Oslo_the_cat 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
There is no.legitimate way to increase your legitimate charming skills...
[–]timei5ticking 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Practice helps you increase your charming skills. Charm is just saying the right things at the right time
[–]HotDogRandy 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
"Charisma on Command" on YouTube is pretty good
As far as books go, "How To Win Friends and Influence People" is a classic.
[–]MK2718 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Stay away from strictly memorizing routines. Learn and understand the fundamentals at work instead. The primary reason routines worked back in the day was that it gave men confidence and excuses to initiate conversations. The confidence combined with taking action was the thing that primary led to results, not the actual routines.
Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCXL9vENkNxtpbul-r0p4hjQ
Book: Fundamentals of Female Dynamics
I know memorizing routines is stupid. However I struggle with making conversations funa nd escalation hence asking for routines to know examples.I am pretty confident from childhood, and can have a good conversation (Hell, I even have to tone down how much I talk. I am very talkative)
[–]leonao22 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Book recommendation: From shy guy to ladies' man by Chris Bale
Its not boring but irreverent and honest. I can't describe how much this book will change your entire perspective on seduction and make you a different man. Check it out
[–]timei5ticking 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Thanks. I am not shy though just struggle to escalate and have a fun conversation.
I hope this book helps
[–]leonao22 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Well if you talk about something you like and are genuinely excited to talk about the other person catches your vibes and the conversation becomes fun. Just beware you're gonna get a lot of criticism from superficial people (who pretty much suck) for being yourself just be proud of who you are.
A girl told me I was the most interesting person to talk to when I began talking about things I like without restricting myself or refining my words. I was vulnerable enough to be myself despite of what I would face and she liked it. She liked that I wasn't perfect but confident. I knew what I wanted in life and I knew myself. Boy do girls go weak in the knees for a man who knows himself and knows what he wants.
FYI we aren't dating but she let me do all kinds of things to her wink
Yeah its standards for guys to use a cheesy pickup line and just ask generic questions to girls these days.
It's better if the guy demonstrates good value
[–]rustoof 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Practice
[–]timei5ticking 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Read the text dude. I know I have to practice. But I am asking something else
[–]rustoof 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
You are asking about books/knowledge/information. Im telling you to practice talking to strangers. You are welcome to spend your time reading alone, or talking to strangers. Its no skin off my back which you choose.
I know I have to practice. But tips would be better
[–]rustoof 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
The tip is that you're wrong. Practice is better than tips. What part of this do you not understand?
There is no script. There are no lines that work in every situation. Every set is different. Every girl is different.
Here is a tip for charm and charisma - actually listen to what people are saying. Dont wait for your turn to talk, dont hear what you want to hear, dont insist on hearing what you want to hear.
Heres a chance for you to listen. GO FUCKING PRACTICE
There is no point in teaching someone who wont listen and wnts it there way.
This was good. I guess I know what to watch out for
[–]TravonM 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Read the mystery method and apply what you learn for at least 30 days straight and you’ll notice improvement in the mentioned areas of your game.
[–]SweetPhantasy 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
Nothing worse than meeting a guy who loves to talk too much. He never allows anyone else to get a word in edgewise. When I try to interject a thought on a subject - he interrupts with his thought or idea and it's all about him again. I just walk away. No thank you! He quite obviously doesn't need anyone else - - - it's all about him.
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