If you are of the most recent generations, you have lived in the safest and strangest period in history, with masculinity under attack and a lack of strong virtuous masculine role models in mens lives, we have seen the rise of confused men.

Only a few decades ago, men would go through a transitionary period when they were teenagers, the so called hero phase where boys would shed the restrictions placed on them by society and parental figures to go out and explore the world.

They'd chase girls, chase independence, chase ways to test their limits and in the process discover who they were.

This what men today lack, you still live according to how your parents, your friends and your society expects you to live. You have not initiated the transition to manhood, which is to shed those expectations and find out for yourself where your limits lie.

The hero archetype motivates a man to discover what he can do, it's that nagging voice in the back of your head that asks "What if I could?".

Until you listen to that voice, you will never initiate the transition into manhood.

Tieing this back to women and dating:

What if you could get a bomb shell girl?

That's your heroes call because to answer that question you must initiate a journey to become a man who she would want.

Part of that journey is going up and trying, yes it might go horrbly and you might get rejected but you must sacrafice your chances with this specific girl for an actual step towards a relationship with any girl.

Same with your career, how many of you are drifting around from job to job with no real idea of what you want to do in life?. Yet we all have that thing which triggers our heroes call and we ask "What if I could?". Maybe you've always wanted to be a fighter pilot or a navy seal or maybe you've always wanted to work on the rockets that will send people to mars.

You must answer that call to initiate your heroes journey.