We match, give me their ig, then their numbers, but when setting a date they just go away…

gtaIIIstan · 2024-03-25T23:05:41+00:00

Something seems to be going wrong in the transition. When I ask for #s off a dating app, it's clear I'm doing it to arrange the logistics for the date. In fact, I often soft close on the app ("we should grab drinks this wk") and then ask for her # so we can iron out the details of that.

Instead, it sounds like you're having a bunch of errant chat ("We can keep talking during a few days") once you get to this stage instead of getting to the point.

yyuyuyu2012 · 2024-03-25T22:02:53+00:00

Perhaps. What it tells me is to fine tune things as I had a few happenings like this. For me it seems like my game ain't bad but I need to work on my weight and some other stuff. Could be wrong though.

TransitionNormal1387 · 2024-03-25T22:10:31+00:00

Common and the best way to handle it is do nothing.

If they are really interested, they would follow through, if not immediately set a date, will tell you about how soon they can meet up. Once they ghost after asking them out, don’t bother with them anymore, if they do come aback around, go straight for the meet up, if they do it again…stop reaching out and continue apps/cold approach/however you prefer to meet women. It’s not personal (most of the time) it’s just they either don’t find you they’re type and or have other men/obligations/friends/and some enjoy being single in their life, it is what it is.

romeo602_ · 2024-03-26T05:46:40+00:00

Dude same…… I was gonna make a post about this exact thing. I matched with girls, we make plans, they give me their number and they straight up ghost. Same exact as you

PUNCHCAT · 2024-03-26T06:52:06+00:00

This is just the norm now

NoMoassNeverWas · 2024-03-26T08:27:45+00:00

Just FYI to all, sharing instagram can help, it can also hurt. The only reason I ask a girl for instagram is to see more photos of her to make sure she's not fat.

I have friend who tells me every time he trades instagram with girl on Tinder, they ghost him. Well I check his Tinder and its boring selfies from 1997. Come on dude. Your IG is the extension of your Tinder profile.

Personally, I just do all arrangements over Tinder, right up to "i'm standing here, blue shirt" day of. If she wants IG, I will share, I figure it's to help her make sure I'm not catfishing.

OP you should warm them up to the idea of date, before asking. Talk about the thing before inviting them and setting a day. Also ask when they're free. Girls rarely want to trade their weekend for a first date.(ruins their Saturday night)

My first dates usually fall on a Tuesday/Thursday after work.

Title	We match, give me their ig, then their numbers, but when setting a date they just go away…
Author	Fauna_Salvaje
Upvotes	6
Comments	9
Date	March 25, 2024 9:52 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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