“Male loneliness is not a crisis”

christina_murray_ · 2024-04-15T05:53:14+00:00

Also, there shouldn’t be a “men Vs women” thing going on- “men caused it so men solve it”- these are the same women who ask for male allies…..

We’re humans, our job is to work together

christina_murray_ · 2024-04-15T05:49:58+00:00

And they’ll get made when people paint women as a monolith, whilst painting men as a monolith

christina_murray_ · 2024-04-15T05:52:09+00:00

TheTinMen calls her out but unlike most of the time, he’s actually getting significant backlash for some reason….

Source- https://twitter.com/TheTinMenBlog/status/1779410056846389284

“You can solve it by going to therapy and becoming somebody people want to be around”- https://twitter.com/crazyredranting/status/1779628673122849262- notice how most of the people who recommend therapy as the answer to everything are these radfems? And they’re not people I want to be around. Is it any wonder so many men are reluctant to attend- some of them might be worried that they’ll be indoctrinated into those beliefs.

Somebody upholding toxic gender stereotypes by saying “go cry about it”- https://twitter.com/KN45521419/status/1779581766329614395 - I thought men were allowed to cry according to these people? Yet they’ll use expressions like “go cry about it” to shut them down. And another one- https://twitter.com/PrissyMissyyo/status/1779635368565846033

https://twitter.com/MarcusG60467060/status/1779500950396219729 - “if anyone’s lonely it’s their own fault- there are 8 billion people on the planet”

Somebody calling out the double standard (thank god)- https://twitter.com/lp_sukhoi/status/1779627232387846529

“It’s something only men can solve- stop blaming women”- https://twitter.com/Mercyfallsy/status/1779623799803023516 - I haven’t seen anyone blame women collectively (other than a few horrible misogynists clearly trolling in the comments)- more than can be said for vice-versa. And also this comment is somewhat ableist to me- neurodivergent and autistic men exist and they struggle making friendships at the best of times anyway. My partner was severely bullied at school and didn’t have any friends because they were all making fun of autistic people- he’s told me he was seen as the school punching bag. Somebody somewhat calling out the casual ableism- https://twitter.com/ReigenSwage/status/1779538922311233569

“Whether or not people want to spend time with you has quite a lot to do with your own behaviour”- https://twitter.com/EoinHarrison1/status/1779606790063128957 - not always, see my above point.

“It’s not women’s job to help men”- https://twitter.com/I33Ox/status/1779528338886770950 - no, it’s humans’ job to help other humans…. rather than using them as pawns in a needless gender war

“Men, fix it yourselves, stop making it women’s work”- https://twitter.com/LindiweGrace/status/1779617698281902510- who is men? They’re not a monolithic group. And why can’t humans just help other humans?

“She’s right. It’s not women’s problem and you need social skills.”- https://twitter.com/partyfavrsforu/status/1779620428413026679- why can’t humans just support each other? What is it with the gender war?

“Stop blaming women for men’s “”loneliness””” https://twitter.com/_WhatMakesAMan_/status/1779497255763910926 - TheTinMen wasn’t doing that…. also why the air quotes around the word loneliness?

“Men are weak and playing victim”- https://twitter.com/whiskeyfoxy789/status/1779641086740480101 - I thought it was OK for men to showcase their vulnerability and express weakness now?

“You expect us to solve your loneliness for you? And if we don’t we’re evil wretches? Okay… seems we’re not the ones that need to grow up” https://twitter.com/misandry4L/status/1779736428085457313 - this woman’s username alone makes me discard her opinion

“It’s not women’s problem to fix”- https://twitter.com/RockDaisy12/status/1779471344691802213- it’s society’s problem to fix.

“Ask other men to be with you, big boy”- https://twitter.com/_LAprendiz_/status/1779557621231431990 - what’s with the demeaning language?

“She is right you know. Also the original tweet was by some guy blaming us women to fix the male loneliness epidemic. Like dude you being lonley isn't our fault. We women don't owe u men anything. Why are u telling us to take accountability. 😂😂”…. https://twitter.com/Salt_in_ur_eyes/status/1779477286598885496- it’s not anyone’s “fault” that they’re lonely, loneliness is like depression- sometimes it’s clinical, sometimes it’s situational, but it’s nobody’s “fault” that they’re going through it. “Women don’t owe you anything”- I bet she’s one that wants male allies for female issues though? And whilst it’s true that men and women collectively don’t “owe” the opposite gender anything, humans in general should show a bit of respect to one another. Stop the needless gender war.

”red pill/sigma culture rises” "muh male loneliness!!" “return to real life and grow a spine because if youre going to be bent out of shape from that tweet then you deserve it. you arent oppressed and your father would be ashamed of you”- https://twitter.com/UkrainianMan8/status/1779635773156872498- nobody’s saying “men are oppressed”… and mocking male loneliness and those who talk about it to “muh” is just ridiculous. and that “grow a spine” sounds an awful lot like “man up” to me… a phrase that we rightly see the issue with…

Suitable-Campaign-79 · 2024-04-15T10:47:01+00:00

But period (e.g. paid mensural leave) and other costly women issues are the responsibility of everyone.

StarZax · 2024-04-15T14:31:50+00:00

Pretty crazy that they really think that we're asking them to solve it for us lol

Idk, when I hear about serious women's issues I have empathy, I try to understand and express support.

I do think that maybe they can't do the same because when they say stuff like « educate men » they really expect us to « solve » the issue as if it was in any way shape or form possible, so they don't even realize that we aren't even asking them to solve anything, just expressing and asking for basic empathy.

Well, that's just me trying to make sense of all this, thanks a lot for your elaborated post btw

hottake_toothache · 2024-04-15T21:15:56+00:00

People don't care about men.

LucastheMystic · 2024-04-15T22:25:24+00:00

The refusal to understand chronic loneliness and alienation as a serious PUBLIC health crisis shall lead to more tears and burials. Also, loneliness is a social sin. You can't Lock In loneliness. Yes the lonely have a responsibility to themselves to build social connections, but it is also the responsibility of the community to make that possible. Considering how many boys and men (especially Neurodivergent ones like myself) have been set up for failure in that regard, it is particularly challenging for us and we cannot do it alone.

Since so many women like to gloat at the superiority of the social and emotional skills, they shouldn't be so callous in regards to the Loneliness Crisis.

THEbeautifuLIE · 2024-04-15T22:26:50+00:00

((I catch exponentially-more “thumbs down” reactions when I speak the truth from an objective perspective here than in the goofy feminist/misogyny groups I infiltrate. . .but here goes another attempt))

“It’s not women’s [responsibility] to solve the men’s loneliness crisis.” Guys, she is 100% correct. Modern women are the most selfish creatures in all of human history and will never Ever EVER do the ‘right thing’ (or make ANY sacrifice) for the betterment of community/culture/country or males (not even their sons). They simply could not care less about any issue that disproportionately affects men/boys & she is right -> They don’t owe us a single thing. We shouldn’t even be engaging with them at this point on such subjects.

. . .but it IS women’s responsibility to solicit support from men to help resolve the issues THEY struggle with & that disproportionately affect THEM. . .and when we say unequivocally “NO!”, point them to this very tweet/discussion. Tell them to keep that same energy when it comes to sexism, abortion, domestic violence, rape, the “wage gap” (lol), general security & protection, breast/ovarian/cervical cancer awareness, depression & anxiety, pregnancy issues/services, keeping their sports & lockerrooms to biological females only, etc etc etc. Watch the hypocritical excuses fly out from every corner of their mouths to every corner of the earth. There will be no greater revenge than actually resolving this male loneliness issue w/o them like they said. Then, they’ll try to shame us into fixing their issues, too. lol… #AintGoneHappen

country2poplarbeef · 2024-04-15T15:30:09+00:00

Lol Complimenting misandry with misogyny. That first comment is basically built off toxic stereotypes. Guess women just don't really like sex, guise! 🙄

CyclopeWarrior · 2024-04-16T05:06:17+00:00

Funny considering women who say they are alone just mean they aren't officially dating or have an approved someone as an official boyfriend, not that they are really alone lol.

Title	“Male loneliness is not a crisis”
Author	christina_murray_
Upvotes	87
Comments	13
Date	April 15, 2024 5:47 AM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/EverydayMisandry
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