I'm 4 months seperated. We don't have a court-ordered custody plan for our two daughters (15, 18), but we have a signed separation agreement where I have full custody. (My layman's understanding is that in my jurisdiction the separation agreement, which does NOT need to be done in court is binding).

There is nothing in the agreement about moving - mainly because neither of us thought it would be a consideration in the next few years before the youngest hits 19.

Well.. I got cold-called by a different department at work, asking if I would be interested in talking with them about jobs. The emailed my the job descriptions - there are a few possible ones - and they sound interesting. And they are a promotion.

The description they sent didn't say, but I know that this department does not have any telework, and their location is the other end of the country for me (they would pay for the move - which would coincidentally cover the costs of selling the joint house!)

I talked to the kids about it - saying I was going to be turning it down because I didn't want to make them move (and not mentioning that it sounded interesting). They are both pushing me to go for it, and that they would like to move....

And, it happens that the area that the job is is relatively close to where my wife grew up, and she absolutely hates the area..... And its too close to her family for her comfort. So... If I get an offer, it could get very interesting.

She would definitely try to guilt me about not going - how she doesn't want to be kept away from her babies. And that she wouldn't want to move there. I don't *think* she would go to the courts over this. But, I'd have a solid case if we did - both girls want to be with me, and want to move, and I'd be moving because of a promotion opportunity.

What I will have to think about is what I can offer her as an olive branch if this happens, and how to present it as neutrally as possible.

But, I might be overthinking this.. I don't have a job offer yet.