'We need to decide if we're going to work on things...'

Reflog1791 · 2024-02-14T19:25:37+00:00

Alternative evil plan: play along with her stringing you along. What’s good for the goose is good for the gander.

DCnative2020 · 2024-02-14T17:45:22+00:00

"She's finding out she's lonely, and that life isn't neccesarily better on her own..."

Too bad...so sad. She made the decision to not work on things. Not sure who initiated the separation but she can live with her decision for the rest of her life and has learned a valuable lesson the grass is not greener on the other side.

Signal-Dot2326 · 2024-02-14T13:02:01+00:00

Get a lawyer and file asap the fact that you hold the house is gonna be a big leverage chip.

Visual_Cycle_1066 · 2024-02-14T06:46:11+00:00

Congratulations on your newly peaceful home. Now you can further bond with your children without distractions. Do so. Also, while I understand it may be early days in your mind and/or you may harbor some uncertainties, I will at least suggest that you consider filing for divorce. Take control of the situation with authority my friend..

lifeisallihave · 2024-02-14T05:17:00+00:00

We as fathers are doing fine with our kids. Society often thinks we cannot raise our little girls to be great individuals, how wrong they are. Let's move on brother. You are doing amazing and never allow her to come and ruin your peace ever again. Most of them don't like a peaceful household so they blow it up and destroy everything only to try and blame us. Whenever she shows up tell her this is what she wanted.

DivorceRecoveryMen · 2024-02-14T04:00:34+00:00

Enjoy your new reality without her. Too bad, so sad. Happiness is not overrated. Keep it moving.

Acceptable_Piano4809 · 2024-02-14T00:47:14+00:00

Agreed it’s a miserable way to live

Acceptable_Piano4809 · 2024-02-14T00:46:24+00:00

You need to act like you couldn’t care less if she moves back or not, just keep doing what you’re doing and be good to your kids…. If she at all even thinks you want her back, and you bend over to get her to move back in, she will hold this over you next time she doesn’t get her way or you’re upset about anything…. My STBX did this to me, I wanted her to work on things and every time we got into any argument about anything, didn’t matter how big or small she’d threaten to move out… I can just hear her now “I should have never moved back” or “why did I come back?”… it will be like a weapon she’ll use whenever she’s upset or doesn’t get her way, or whenever she feels like upsetting you…. If you just do you and make HER be the one to ask back in on your terms, AND you guys can maturely use this as a lesson to improve your relationship meaning both of you sit down and talk about it, and use this to GROW together, then maybe it can work, but do not, I repeat, do not let her even think that you want her to move back… it needs to be her asking you and her making the decision on her own, or else this marriage is over right now…. Trust me, you’ll hear about this every time she is in a bad mood if you ask her to move back or even show a slight sign that you’re unhappy without her… this is malicious manipulation and the marriage is really hanging by a thread right now, and I mean a spiders web

Bluerednaz · 2024-02-14T00:40:47+00:00

I would say that it’s still too fresh. Lots of emotions still tied in. Probably not from you. But from her, most likely. Tell her the focus should be the kids right now. Even if you have no intention of ever trying a relationship with her again. Telling her no, will probably bring more you more trouble. Telling her yes will bring you more trouble. Right now, the focus really should just be the kids. Drive that point home. That’s all that matters right now.

captainchippsixx · 2024-02-14T00:20:40+00:00

Be careful. Rejection drives them crazy and they keep coming back.

Tell her you lost the receipt and the warranty is expired on her. Best to just toss her ass in the trash.

Psychological-Point8 · 2024-02-14T00:13:03+00:00

Yall can be together after the divorce. No one should hold that carrot in front of someone's face if they used it once already.

Comfortable-Angle660 · 2024-02-14T00:08:46+00:00

Don’t stop the door hitting her on the way out!

bigedcactushead · 2024-02-24T00:06:35+00:00

UpdateMe!

Title	'We need to decide if we're going to work on things...'
Author	shell_shocked_today
Upvotes	44
Comments	31
Date	February 13, 2024 11:47 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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