Is having sex in college even worth it anymore?

ThemApples007 · 2015-08-12T08:29:55+00:00

Man things have changed. When I was in school, only 8ish years ago this was never an issue. I'd be scared shitless now. I feel like women would really need to earn my trust first, plus I would establish a solid reputation as a great guy on campus.

I would legitimately go to the dean and ask "I'm concerned about this. How can I date and ensure I'm not accused of rape?" It's pretty fucking unfair to say "there is no way to ensure". Really? In cars we have seatbelts. In planes we have oxygen masks, in kitchens we have rubber gloves. At work we have hardhats. In public we have cross-walks. But you're telling me there is no viable way to ensure that I can't have sex without protecting myself from rape accusations? Bullshit.

I might even go as far to setup a dorm cam that records 24/7. Even if this is against the rules, no consequence of that can be as severe as rape charges. Just don't be moron about how you use the cam, otherwise you deserve to get thrown out.

Invalidity · 2015-08-12T06:22:57+00:00

Screen girls well. If a girl let's any sort of crazy slip, you avoid her. If she starts mentioning anything about misogyny or feminism, bounce that shit.

TylenolMyLove · 2015-08-12T11:17:39+00:00

Women actually want to monopolize the supply of cocks and simultaneously want men to have no choice in partner. That way, they not only have the best price on the sexual market but can also punish dealers of dissatisfactory goods.

Go elsewhere and keep upping your notch count.

thrway1312 · 2015-08-12T16:02:50+00:00

In the same boat here, man -- just transferred from a CC to a university and I've gone through two different sexual assault presentations now; they've successfully terrified me of how malleable a rape charge can be and how it's effectively the man's fault 99% of the time.

I'm going to keep doing what I'm doing: comfort game. Build up rapport, including teasing them a little bit, but nothing too aggressive; kino is my divining rod and if they don't seem comfortable, I take a step or two back and try re-escalating after talking for a bit.

I'd like to say I know for a fact that these (false) rape accusations are the result of pump&dump/overly aggressive game/"taking advantage" of a drunk girl, but I can't -- and I'm scared shitless at the prospect of risking my education because I didn't play it safe with the matchbox.

Talk about victim blaming...

blahblah2814 · 2015-08-12T11:01:46+00:00

I wouldn't say you're being paranoid, similar thing happened to a buddy of mine about 6 years ago. I'd say for me, I just bang hookers now because I don't want to deal w/ the stupid drama of some chick if I happen to run into a psycho bitch. A buddy of mine had a relationship that was on and off w/ this hormonal land-whale, I was hooking up w/ her friend, another land-whale unfortunately, my stupid ass kept on coming back because I was desperate for booty. My buddy thought that he could be the good guy that could change his then gf at the time into an angel, all these good relationships and reputation he had ruined cause of a fucking night 6 years ago where the bitch and him banged. Then a year later she placed a false claim, and this happened right when he ended their 1 on and off year relationship together. This manipulative c*** and her fucking friends and other gossiping c**** started spreading false rumors, these twats have nothing better to do in their stupid pathetic lives. Some of his co-workers knowing as well. This is a bit of a rant but if you find yourself dealing w/ a hot skank but think she's a bit crazy, just don't interact with her. If you happen to run into her, she'll try to find ways to interact with you. No matter what your mind and body is telling, be disciplined, trust your instincts and just ignore her. She's not worth your time man. Don't be stupid like my buddy cause he made those mistakes. I hate how this society has become so anti-man and crap like that. It's a normal thing for college kids to hook up on campus but now you have these hormonal cunts who the minute they have sex w/ some random guy his life is instantly ruined w/ a false claim. Only so the bitch ass cunt could protect her reputation from being seen as a slut and not being accountable for her actions. Seriously dude, you're being reasonable. I'd say if you have the money, go find a hooker. Just don't tell anyone else, I've had opportunities to hook up but didn't take them because I'm paranoid about what happened to my friend. There's a reason why they say you pay hookers to leave. I wish when I was in college I decided to take that route.

[deleted] · 2015-08-12T11:16:40+00:00

That's brutal. Try screwing girls who aren't from the college, but the surrounding area, never use your real name, use cash at bars and such, don't bring them back to your place. Keep cash for Uber or something.

New_Horiz0ns · 2015-08-12T14:08:19+00:00

Record everything bro!

FrameWalker · 2015-08-12T16:19:14+00:00

Its worth it but you have to be smart. Greek hookup culture is a filthy mess. Half of those girls put out because they think they have to to fit in. Combine that with an obsession over social status and vicious rumors and the ease of obtaining victim status and escaping sluts shame with false accusations and you have trouble.

I stayed out of the Greek scene and always avoided drunk or high sex. You might want to focus on meeting girls in sober environments. Intramural sports, clubs, classes, daygame. Avoid being dick, and beta burn girls you want to stop seeing. Do it slowly because a sudden beta reveal will feel like fraud to them, but if they feel like they pussyfied you they'll be proud and happy.

chortle-guffaw · 2015-08-12T18:02:55+00:00

Videotaping all encounters is an absolute minimum. Even that is not a guarantee (she can claim she consented that night but didn’t another night that wasn’t taped).
Keep all videotapes at least as long as the statute of limitations. Women can and do change their minds later. Apparently regret rape is now a thing.
Limiting dates to off-campus women is no protection. I don’t think you have to be a student to report a false incident to the school.
Too many guys have the “it can’t happen to me” attitude. Sure, the odds are low, but the odds were low for every guy that this did happen to. You don’t want to be the guy with $50K in student debt and no degree
Too many high school boys and college freshman don’t know this is an issue. We need to keep this issue alive and publicized. High school boys should be considering this when they choose their university.
The goal ultimately should be a men’s rights policy at every school. At the very least, this policy should grant all men on campus the same rights of due process that are guaranteed by the US Constitution. Schools unwilling to do this should see a decline in male applicants.
If you’re an alumni, as I am, you can voice your desire for such a written policy, and let them know that any donations will be withheld until such a policy exists.

pinstrap · 2015-08-12T08:36:40+00:00

I'm in the same boat as you.

Uni absolutely sucks. The girls are immature and, aren't even interested in dating let alone sex. Unless you go to a party university, or use tinder to see which ones are actually looking. Uni is absolute shit for guys, for both dating and sex. Even if there are dorms. Maybe try clubs. The point is you have to be the social guy/popular guy.

This is the only way, you gotta be a popular guy and stand out, so girls know you're "normal"

The bullshit isn't worth it, even if the girl isn't insane. Just get money finish uni, then go you can go crazy, you will be shocked at the amont of pussy when you get out of uni/college, have your own apartment, etc.

qwerty_asd · 2015-08-12T12:07:02+00:00

Just film your sexual encounters ;D

But seriously, you are being paranoid. The frat parties sound like a toxic sexual environment, where false rape accusations are common. So just don't fuck girls at the parties.

If you really are so worried, just run your phone's audio recorded in your pocket. Don't bring up the recordings without cause, but in the unlikely event that you need to prove that sex was consensual, the recording will be your ironclad proof.

Squeezymypenisy · 2015-08-12T13:46:06+00:00

I'm assuming you are in California or possibly Michigan. I would just focus on grades and maybe find an ltr who you can get regular sex from. Wait till you get away from the kangaroo courts of the university system. Or transfer to a school in a state with one party consent. Being a frat in California is terrible.

1NV0K3R · 2015-08-12T13:57:13+00:00

Isn't it interesting, how the power dynamic has shifted.

Women used to be worried about men raping and killing them in allies. Unjustified, but it was still a common fear.

Now, men are afraid, TO SPEAK TO WOMEN, let alone fuck them, due to their lives literally being murdered.

Holy shit we are fucked.

[deleted] · 2015-08-12T14:04:57+00:00

I beat a sexual assault charge at my insanely liberal campus... I went away for an internship for a year and came back, everything was tumblred out noticeably in one year.

Took me 10 months and $20,000 to beat it. I hired the best lawyer in the area and spent my senior year in a forced monk mode. I'm now a bit paranoid of women but for good reason as I've learned to protect myself ABOVE ALL.

AmlanceJockey · 2015-08-12T14:30:00+00:00

You're not being paranoid. In college I saw 6 guys get arrested and released because a girl blacked out and wasnt sure if her period had started, or she was bleeding because she got raped. I saw 2 guys get expelled because a freshman came to his house party, and got caught coming back to the dorm drunk. She told the dean where she got drunk (off campus), and he got kicked out and nothing happened to her. I saw guys kicked out/arrested for weed while the girls they were with got sent on their way. Now, every interaction with a girl doesnt mean you are going to jail, but it happens enough that you're smart to consider It. There is an old manosphere article called 'The gun in the room' which basically says while every woman might not pull the trigger, they all have a gun that shoots very effective and life ruining accusations. Accusations that are treated as true even in the face of evidence to the contrary. Its worth noting, that while most women dont pull the trigger, they all will if it suits them. They have no reason not to since they get pussy passes on false alegations. No amount of screening will remove this gun from the equation. Community of the Wrongly Accused is a good site that reports on this sort of thing.

Some men do a cost benefit analysis and go their own way (MGTOW). Some men record everything. Some only sleep with their girlfriend. Personally, I live in a state where I can record without consent. I have hours and hours of audio of sexual encounters, and post encounter small talk. I also use google voice to archive my text messages so I have a record of the "we should do that again" text messages from the day after.

Its a personal decision. When I first took the red pill, I was slaying as much tang as I could. After a few brushes with the law, and seeing how easily my life could have been ended over a wet hole, the pussy was permanently knocked of the pedestal. My advice to you is to research, rub one out, and then do your own cost benefit analysis and find what, if any, place having sex with women should have in your life.

RealRational · 2015-08-12T17:06:08+00:00

Better safe than sorry, it's pretty fucked up but the reality is that you can commit no mistake, do no wrong and still have your life destroyed. Better to just not be around those parties or girls at all, sadly.

If you can afford an IP camera I'd go so far as to put a camera in my room, if nothing else it's an alibi for when that false rape claim comes along. "Uh actually, here you can see a time stamped video of me sleeping during the supposed "rape".

greyavenger · 2015-08-12T17:37:59+00:00

You can still screw whoever you want, just that before you do the deed you take out your iphone (or other smart phone) and make her consent to video. Then if she tries to pull some bullshit show it to the police and she will be the one thrown off campus.

[deleted] · 2015-08-12T15:50:58+00:00

Heres what you need to do. Find a skank who had a train run on her at a house party and has the herp. Get her to beg you for anal. Get drunk, fuck her brains out, give er the 'ole "ooops, wrong door" and deny cuddles. Then dont call her. Also helps if you tried to bang her two friends first. You are only a mattress and a lawyer away from long term profit.

Title	Is having sex in college even worth it anymore?
Author	thegeeber
Upvotes	31
Comments	32
Date	August 12, 2015 5:52 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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