What do you do to have your husbands willing to have sex during peak days?

youllknowwhenitstime · 2024-07-09T21:12:38+00:00

Is this a general seduction question?

If you're only initating/seducing during peak days you're doing it wrong. Initiate/seduce three, four, whatever days in a row randomly throughout the month and he won't clue into a pattern that creates performance anxiety or start suspecting you only want to have sex for babies.

SecretFeminine · 2024-07-09T12:25:13+00:00

Why in the world would you tell him? Do not tell him. Presumably you want to have a baby with him because he's your dream guy and you're in love and attracted to him. So put the cycle tracker down and focus on how you can show your love, respect, and attraction to him.

_Pumpkin_Muffin · 2024-07-09T11:59:36+00:00

Is there a reason you have to time intercourse? How's your sex life otherwise?

If there's no fertility issue, and you are having sex regularly (~twice a week), you really don't need to schedule intercourse. Having sex when the mood struck is how our entire species has survived for, oh, a few hundred thousand years or so. Since our desire is heavily influeced by ovulation, things should work themselves out.

It can be incredibly off putting to feel your partner doesn't desire you genuinely, and only wants sex to conceive. It can make one feel used. Don't turn sex into a chore, sex should be something that makes you feel good and lets you two grow closer. If you want to have more frequent sex around ovulation, just initiate. Why do you need to "let him know why"? And even if you want to tell him - do you only want sex because you want to conceive, and would never initiate otherwise? If that's the case, your relationship has bigger issues than your husband's unwillingness to schedule sex at carefully timed intervals.

Just initiate. If your husband asks why, just tell him you feel really in the mood today. You could try to incorporate more things he likes, initiate with stuff that will put him in the mood, make him feel desired. He wants sex with you because he likes it, and he wants you to like it - he wants to feel like a desired man, not like a stud.

undothatbutton · 2024-07-10T06:25:20+00:00

I simply exist and he’s willing, ready, and enthusiastic. If I am also ovulating?! I would have to knock him back with a newspaper if I wasn’t interested. (Can’t imagine not being interested esp while ovulating.)

I’m not trying to be a hater. (And I see OOP wasn’t the one who cross posted.) I just think that this is soo unnecessarily analytical. This is their 4th child, they’re in their late 20s. Like… just have sex. Make love. Desire each other. Have fun. Enjoy each other. And finish inside at the end. Viola. Repeat. If a problem comes up, face it then. I can’t imagine any man (or woman) is genuinely aroused and in their sexual love- and baby-making “energy” and mindset to relax and enjoy (is that not part of the beauty and magic of making a baby with the person you love?!) if they’ve just been told the pressure is ON or heard the details about how fertile your mucus is…

Sex — especially babymaking sex — should be relaxing and fun and enjoyable and embodied.

AutoModerator · 2024-07-09T10:53:35+00:00

Title: What do you do to have your husbands willing to have sex during peak days?

Author Constant-Chance6413

Full text: This is our 4th time TTC. The first time my husband was really turned off by timing sex and I was frustrated by his unwillingness to work with the timing (every other day for a week).

We have a better sexual relationship now, and I've learned that he is more interested in frequent sex when I don't involve him in knowing when I'm ovulating.

When I'm in my fertile window I seduce him with a candle and soft music, or sometimes a back scratch or simple non-sexual contact. We had sex last night on my peak day and I would like to have sex again tonight but I'm sure if I let him know why it'll turn him off to wanting it. He also is interested in pregnancy, but not the pressure of the fertile window. So what do you all do to make it a romantic time for your husbands?

Those who are having sex 3 days in a row, what is the dynamic like for you guys if you don't mind me asking?

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