She blew me off for date 1. What should I of done?

abdada · 2015-08-17T16:58:21+00:00

Never show anger, dude. Anger is an emotional response and emotional responses enter her frame.

Next time ignore her. She's not outdoorsy, she's a lush. Bounce.

Her text relationship with you was her frame, too. Never believe what a woman says or writes. Believe her actions.

Her actions are clear.

fnordsnord · 2015-08-17T20:45:15+00:00

You are not in the wrong, but you handled it wrong.

There was no "win" for you talking, debating, discussing, or otherwise engaging her after she couldn't be arsed to show up for a date or even let you know she wasn't coming.

(A half-assed text at 3AM does NOT count)

The correct response to this, ESPECIALLY for a Tinder chick is, "NP."

Then soft next and radio silence.

fuckoffdikhed · 2015-08-17T23:05:52+00:00

Mmm.

If you're new you're going to fuck it up with the first few girls. So don't try to gf them. Just do the regular RP thing with thw knowledge you will probably fuck up and show you're beta ways. However you will learn

RedPillJax · 2015-08-17T17:37:01+00:00

Yeah, no. Don't scold women, especially not ones you haven't even met yet.

Soft next her and talk to some new girls. If you're practicing abundance, who cares if this girl blew you off? You're the prize, and if she doesn't want to chase you, raise your SMV until you find some that will.

FrameWalker · 2015-08-17T17:37:27+00:00

Hey knucklehead here is where you went wrong:

I'd try to make a girlfriend out of her first to see where it'd go instead of just banging her

This is completely backwards. None of my longer relationship ships started this way. This mindset leads to oneitis and neediness. The anger when she flaked is a manifestation of your clinging, which is a direct consequence of the shifty frame you chose.

Thank your luck stars you're 18,i got it backwards until I turned 21. You pursue sex first, and if she begs for commitment you can give it to her if she's earned it.

2.at 18 plate spinning is highly encouraged. To each their own.

THE__USURPER · 2015-08-18T10:02:49+00:00

LOL DO NOT DO THIS. These guys are pro man, just listen to them. "NP" and silence will send the hamster into oblivion. I used to go on a mission to scold females who pulled shit like this. They got off on watching the emotion pour out of me. Then they shit on me again.

OmLaLa · 2015-08-17T19:22:11+00:00

She was apologetic and stuff, but I just straight up told her I'm a busy guy that doesn't have the time to play BS games or deal with women who can't control themselves.

I think you're still anger phasing. Getting upset drops frame just as fast as bet behavior because it shows weakness when things don't go your way. Pussy repellent. Act non-chalant and soft next until she reaches out again to reschedule. If she doesn't, check your SMV.

Matter fact, check your SMV anyway. If I ever get stood up, I check to make sure I'm as attractive as I think I am or if something threw off my SMV (bad haircuts kill me more oft than not). You'd be surprised what your pride'll hide from you.

trpftw · 2015-08-17T17:54:06+00:00

You were being bitter and didn't need to respond negatively like that. It may not have been her fault at all if her roommates are pushy people.

Besides an 8:30 in the morning date? Wtf is that? That's not only too early but that's not even a good idea for a first date. No one goes hiking or outdoors on a first date.

Just think of the magnified "fears" she will get if things go wrong.... in a fucking forest. She will 99% flake.

Don't worry so much though. You're 18. You're very young. You should be working on improving yourself mainly at that age. There's a ton of shit to learn here and there's a ton of ways to improve yourself for years and years. I wouldn't be so quick to try to get constant tinder dates. You should be focused on college and picking up college girls at local bars etc. (but if you're still in high school, PICK UP CHICKS IN HIGH SCHOOL. Don't bother tinder).

Archwinger · 2015-08-17T18:48:02+00:00

A lot of loser guys think things work like this:

Dating -> Girlfriend -> Sex -> Marriage

It really works like this:

Dating/Sex -> More Dating/Sex

Some guys try to make it work like this:

Dating/Sex -> Girlfriend/Sex

Some guys even try to make it work like this:

Dating/Sex -> Girlfriend/Sex -> Wife/Sex

If you try to follow that first path at the top of this comment, here's how it will really go:

Dating -> More Dating -> Shittons of money and more dating and not even getting to second base -> Girlfriend -> Occasional grudging sex -> Marriage -> Sex 2.5 times to produce 2.5 children -> Divorce -> Watching children grow up in what used to be your house with other man banging your ex-wife while you fund this venture -> Death

Title	She blew me off for date 1. What should I of done?
Author	TheTreeDen
Upvotes	4
Comments	13
Date	August 17, 2015 4:38 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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