Is falling out of a love a female issue?

LongDongSamspon · 2024-07-28T11:31:28+00:00

Yes, this is a common thing. Scientific studies suggest those individuals with higher estrogen (even among women and lesbian couples) are more likely to express dissatisfaction with their partner regardless of situation.

Ain’t that a kick in the head.

OldGuyWithAttitude · 2024-07-28T11:33:09+00:00

Selfish Woman Explains Why 50% Women Have a Back Up Man in Case Their Current Relationship Fails

FluffyCategory11 · 2024-07-28T12:13:46+00:00

I’m sorry you experienced this dude, you deserve better.

It is pretty common though. As a man, when I leave I have a reason and I tell her. A few times I have been told my reason for leaving was stupid or didn’t matter, but at least I was able to give some kind of closure.

Every time I have been broken up with though it’s because they found someone else. Every single time, and it’s always the guy they said not to worry about that they were texting a bit too much and getting overprotective of their phone. If they have it good enough (you make good money, put a roof over their head, feed them) then they will still find someone else, but instead of leaving they’ll just cheat on you. That happened to me before too.

Loyal women are extremely rare so if you find a good one then hold onto her, or else it is better to just go your own way.

LaserNebula986 · 2024-07-28T11:29:10+00:00

Women will talk to other men and just trade up regardless of how rich and chad-like you are . if top 0.1% men get divorced and cheated on what chance do you think you stand? Better off hiring escorts and surrogates. All women are high maintenance and depreciating assets.

Melodic-Dust-1160 · 2024-07-28T12:15:11+00:00

My experience, for what it's worth: women are strategic. They might secretly be planning on leaving you but will act normal to your face, leaving you blindsided when they go.

In marriage, if a woman is college educated, she initiates divorce 90% of the time.

I don't think most men are cut out to deal with women. We don't tend to play games and don't approach relationships like a chess match. If we have an issue, we talk about it. Women bide their time and see what better opportunities present themselves.

Hothead361 · 2024-07-28T12:31:22+00:00

People on dating scene say you won't be able to keep a woman if you aren't a player that is you must have abundance of options and she needs to see and feel that, she needs to feel that you're the best she can do and you have plenty of options. Also women need tons of emotional stimulation and drama to keep them hooked.

Current_Finding_4066 · 2024-07-28T12:26:29+00:00

Immature people who confuse getting a crush for love and cannot ever be happy long term with anyone

chobolicious88 · 2024-07-28T12:08:13+00:00

Yeah but isnt it normal?

Women are allowed to operate on feelings, whereas men tend to get shunned for having any (society doesnt need them). So basically women are incentivised to adjust based on feelings and be chaotic and men are incentivised to try to control things and maintain stability (reduce chaos).

Im sure men might behave more erratically if they also could secure other partners more easily + they were conditioned that their feelings matter/theyre supposed to follow them.

Tiny-General-3700 · 2024-07-28T12:42:49+00:00

My experience lines up with this 100%. Everything is great until the woman eventually loses interest despite not having any particular problem with the way our relationship is going. Then she gets another guy lined up before kicking me to the curb. Women are just fickle. They don't want something permanent or meaningful, they just want something new and exciting.

IceCorrect · 2024-07-28T13:25:41+00:00

It's just excuses so she doesn't say big words "I cheated"

corporate_robot_dude · 2024-07-28T13:38:56+00:00

Women treat relationships like men treat jobs. Subtly they're wired to atleast always be considering something better. They'll end a relationship and hop onto a new guy weeks later, whereas most men may take a long time to find someone else.

As a guy, it's an uphill battle to be willing to invest mental and financial capital into someone only for them to bounce. Girls complain about lack of commitment, but from guy's perspective you're trying to gauge if they're worth the investment.

Not all women are like this, but the red flags I'd look for:

High body count or history of jumping from guy to guy
Current or ex party girls who like to chase the thrill
Heavy social media presence which is a sign of always wanting validation AND also putting herself out there as an advertisement
Socialite surrounding herself with many guy friend orbiters
Constantly need to travel to "find herself. " More specifically, solo or girls trips where suddenly upon her return she will feel a special spiritual revelation that she's not happy.

IMO I much prefer the conservative girl who is a homebody. You DO have to constantly keep them emotionally engaged, even if it's with the occasional drama. But even then you never know. You could be happily settled down with a house together and she could suddenly "not feel it" one day despite everything you've built together. Nowadays, even having a child together is not enough to lock them down. Very risky stuff.

UbiquitousWobbegong · 2024-07-28T12:28:54+00:00

It's not a female issue necessarily, though I do see it happen more with women. I think the primary culprit is that our culture doesn't prepare us for what a real relationship is like.

Real love waxes and wanes. You don't stay the same level of attracted to your partner your whole life. Part of the challenge of a long term relationship is committing to that relationship, which means staying even when the love doesn't come as easily to you.

A lot of young people think love is supposed to be this perpetually exciting experience like when you first start dating. They think that feelings waning means that they picked the wrong person, and it's time to move on. Again, this is a problem that can be solved by setting young people up with accurate expectations. It's also the purpose of having marriage as a binding institution. The more you create a sense of duty and honor into making a flagging relationship work, the more resilient your average relationship will become.

Street_Conflict_9008 · 2024-07-28T13:37:42+00:00

People drift apart for many reasons, this is a part of life. This isn't gendered.

Relationships take work from both people. Ability to compromise on both sides, trust and more play a part.

Married 19 years, if you want a companion, you both need to be willing to share the ups and downs.

Character is more important than looks!

bit_drastic · 2024-07-28T12:06:27+00:00

It started when you took your new job? Did she ever complain that you were choosing your job over her? Some women can get emotional and insecure about things like that.

I think the problem is Narcissism running rampant in modern society.

Paulina1104 · 2024-07-28T13:56:23+00:00

Statistics show women file for divorce 70-80% of the time, and about 50% of women have another partner as plan B. Generally break up because of feeling unhappy.

mundolingua · 2024-07-28T14:48:15+00:00

Women need drama to stay excited. Many relationships get stale, so women jump ship for that new relationship high

Cheeto_McBeeto · 2024-07-28T14:53:38+00:00

Men have been saying this for decades in red pill circles. I don't think it's exclusively a female thing, although women are usually the ones ending relationships.

There are many reasons, but the overarching issue here is that MOST people today, especially younger people, have an unrealistic expectation of what a real relationship is like.

Love primarily is about the sacrifice of self for the good of another. People just do not understand that. Our culture teaches us the opposite. MY feelings, MY benefits, MY efforts, MY rewards.

Furthermore, people equate love with a feeling. Feelings come and go. You think you are going to FEEL the same way about your partner over years or decades? You will never make it. Real love ebbs and flows and you are going to grow and change at different rates. It really takes commitment, humility, and an attitude of self-sacrifice to being a lasting relationship. Sure, some people are more compatible than others, but most people use that as an excuse to bail when they aren't feeling it anymore.

All that said, there are very few men, and even fewer women, who are prepared for this. In my experience they are usually foreign from a more traditional conservative culture, and/or devoutly religious.

Title	Is falling out of a love a female issue?
Author	John-Walker-1186
Upvotes	66
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Date	July 28, 2024 11:19 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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