My wife(f37) asked to separate last week. She brought up that I (m41) have been verbally abusive with comments and not support her with helping out. Let’s say for todays sake this is true and she has proof (text/friends) and also that I may have let them do things that could be considered dangerous like drive to football practice without seatbelt once (also text proof). We did therapy but too much pain for her to get past. We live in NJ in our house with 2 kids. My name is on title however I learned that doesn’t matter in our state. Married 10 years.

What is this process like?

What are next steps?

How long does this process take? What if I can’t afford to move out. I don’t have local family or support. Our Kids grew up in the house. They are going to be crushed. I am too not being around them. I just don’t know what to expect. How does she get granted payments and what is that based on. When will it be finalized and I have to move? She can’t afford the house without me yet wants me out when said and done. What if I can’t pay her and have no monies left to live on own? If I get a one bedroom apt I literally would not have enough to pay her anything and I make a good salary. Friends are far and have their own families. Family not option. Extremely new to all of this. Thank you.