I decided to write this FR because it’s still ongoing, and I want to capture it while it’s fresh to help me think through it and make the most of it.

To give some context, similar incidents have happened before, typically every 4-6 months in our relationship. Since starting MRP this has accelerated to every 1-2 months. I didn’t handle the last one well.

Things have been fine because I’ve stopped being unattractive. Both my physical and mental attractiveness are improving, though they’re not quite where they need to be. I still have beta conditioning to undo from my wife’s perspective, as she’s endured a beta bitch boy for a long time.

We’ve been having sex more regularly and sometimes more passionately, but it still feels like duty sex. She only initiates when I don’t for 5-7 days, and even then, it feels like duty sex.

I’ve introduced some DEVI and it works when we’re traveling or on vacation. However, at home, she pushes to stick to her sexual script. She’s a type-A personality and likes to schedule everything, even taking a shit. Sometimes, when I initiate, she’ll turn around, set her alarm, and then continue.

Yesterday, my BIL calls around 7PM, asking if I’d like to go for a ride. I agree and think it would be a quick 45-1 hour outing. Before leaving, I tell my wife I’m going to see my buddy and asked if she’d like to join us for dinner later with him and his wife. She said she was tired and didn’t feel like it but would come if everyone else did. (she was stressing all day how tired she is)

We go out, have a drink, and 3 more friends join us. One of them brings a special tequila. We have a good time and by 9 PM everyone is hungry. We try to arrange dinner with the wives, but most flaked, including mine which I texted but never got a reply back.

My wife calls about this time, I answer and tell her most girls flaked (seems she didn't see the text) but one of my friends is going to dinner and we could do that and then join the others later.

Before I finish, she goes on full tilt mode. 

“What the fuck!! are you still out? I thought you were going for a quick drink and you leave me tonight what the fuck is wrong with you?”

I start to say we can go to dinner with one of my friends which is going to dinner with his wife, but she is in rage mode by then and just continuos with a barrage of idiocy.

I hang up. The flood of texts start coming in at the speed of light:

“You’re being discustingggggg”

"All day in your world”

“Im so disgusted by you going out on a thursday without me”

“The only day of the week you speak to me was yesterday and you know for what!” (sex supposedly, and not true ive been pretty much teh same all week)

“You suckkk, tuesday you also left”

“Dont speak to me”

“Lets cut”

“Uninvite your friends for the weekend, im not going to entertain them”

“You don't even let me know”

“I mean you left without saying anything”

“You are a piece of shit”

“Forget that I exist”

“Forget I am in your life”

“Until you make a change and know how to live in a relationship”

“I am disgusteddddddd you disgust me, your plans, your way of life even being with you is disgusting because you only speak to me that day….” (sex day)

“disgusteddddddd”

Did not answer anything after the last phone call and barrage of texts and missed calls. Had a great time last night and went to the gym early today in the morning.

She’s been cold all day, I was upbeat and cordial when I came back form the gym in the morning. She did text a couple of logistical things and tried to emote something about my mother by text. I’m just ignoring the crappy behavior and addressing what we need to take care.

My plan is to mainly STFU and AM when she eventually asks about last night. AA her shitty comments about me. My friends are still invited and I know she’ll handle that well.