Man randomly slapped by female bartender, gets told he must have deserved it.

Snoo82945 · 2024-08-31T16:14:21+00:00

How is slapping someone "okay"?

jessi387 · 2024-08-31T16:33:59+00:00

Abuse is somehow always justified when the victim is male. The service industry itself is extremely sexist towards men

Additional_Insect_44 · 2024-08-31T16:39:01+00:00

Ugh I remember this trash in school. Girls clearly get away with hitting or sexually assault boys. It happened to me and I'd make a stink.

Nobleone11 · 2024-08-31T21:33:02+00:00

That user response recommending that he let it go as an option.

Face Palm

A random stranger assaulting you in public without provocation isn't something I'd let slide and treat like a trivial one-off. The only answer is confronting them and involving the authorities. With equal, retaliatory offense if you're dealing with a stranger intent on causing lethal harm.

They only offered this option because she was a woman and would've chastised the OP for refusing to kick his ass if the assailant was a man.

wordjedi · 2024-08-31T21:41:53+00:00

I guess this is the step in "reverse" sexism (actually not reverse, just sexism). We have arrived at casual consequence-free physical abuse, gentlemen.

Imagine if a male bartender slapped a female customer with exactly the same force: "shhh you must have deserved it". I mean they'd fire the guy on the spot then call the cops and prosecute.

AdamChap · 2024-08-31T23:55:18+00:00

I never lived in the past, but feminists tell me that years ago if a woman was trying to escape domestic abuse and the husband reported her missing: if she came across the police they would bring her home despite anything she'd say. The men were presumed to be right, and anything that happened to the woman was something she deserved.

Now, I never lived in this world, but I can believe it existed.

The world I live in however, does the exact opposite today.

I am left wondering if perhaps there is no solution, that we doomed to flip-flop between two power dynamics. It feels much like equality wasn't about bringing 1 --> 0 but instead 1 --> -1

We spend so much time and energy talking about the positives of femininity and the negatives of masculinity, it seems - or is it that it's actually impossible to EQUALLY promote both genders despite our best efforts? That no matter what we do, we are doomed to elevate one group over another?

I have a sneaky feeling that's the case. The hierarchy will always exist despite our efforts to do away with it. There will always be a single group more respected than the other.

Vegetable_Ad1732 · 2024-09-01T03:32:17+00:00

Please don't take my giving a reason for this as any kind of excuse. What she did was assault, she should have been fired, and probably arrested. My guess is she was angry because she wanted him to keep asking her out. Probably one of those women who likes to play the "chase me" game. I once asked out a woman like that. I asked her out twice, she said she was busy both times, but was OK with me asking her out again. I realized she was playing the chase me game, which is female stupidity, so I stopped asking her out. Somehow, in her female mind, she was the victim, and was angry at me for some time. Yes, I'm aware that I dodged a bullet there.

darthsyn · 2024-09-01T05:50:29+00:00

Another classic case where women are not held accountable for their actions. If this was reversed we all know what would have happened.

MozartFan5 · 2024-08-31T16:22:33+00:00

Typical reddit.

doggonedangoldoogy · 2024-09-01T22:28:37+00:00

Of course he did. He was born the wrong gender.

I_Gilgamesh · 2024-09-01T15:45:34+00:00

A natural reaction to that was rearranging her face.

Newleafto · 2024-09-01T00:58:59+00:00

Hold up here, nobody in the comments are saying he deserved it. They’re saying he has two options - report her to the police or just let it past because since it’s a small town everyone probably knows she’s a psycho. If anything, the comments show sympathy to the guy.

Newleafto · 2024-09-01T01:00:55+00:00

Hold up here, nobody in the comments are saying he deserved it. If anything, they’re sympathetic to him.

Title	Man randomly slapped by female bartender, gets told he must have deserved it.
Author	Wheekie
Upvotes	348
Comments	32
Date	August 31, 2024 3:57 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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