I took the blackpill and I’m spiraling out of control now. Want change.

mikey_weasel · 2024-09-04T19:59:32+00:00

Hey so testicular cancer patient here. One testicle got turned into medical waste. The general feedback from women is that they don't care at all. If we've got to the point of being naked around eachother its very low on the list of priorities. I strongly doubt its affecting your life nearly as much as consuming incel content, your mental health, and how you are thinking about women. That is definitely where I'd be focusing your efforts.

Justwannaread3 · 2024-09-04T18:21:38+00:00

I think you should head over to r/ incelexit, but here’s the first thing you need to do:

Stop consuming ANY “pill shit.” Clear your cache. Wipe your browser memory. Look up videos of funny animals for a while. Next, sign up for therapy.

Marvos79 · 2024-09-04T19:12:06+00:00

So I'm like you. I lost a nut at age 13 in an accident. I'm 45 now and it has only ever been an issue in my head. The thing is no one can tell unless they have your balls in their hands, and they sure as hell can't tell when you just approach them. Most women just don't care. None of them care about balls, (insecure,) men are the only ones who think about it.

Like a lot of guys here, you're your own worst enemy. Take a look at why you feel like a "little bitch." The only one that can tell you're a one-nut wonder is you. I want to echo people and say get therapy if you can afford it. I can answer any questions you have.

Inareskai · 2024-09-04T19:25:07+00:00

Women I have slept with say they don’t care or don’t notice - but I think this is more or less why I am a “little bitch,” and why women eventually all get the “ick” with me.

OR you could believe the women you've slept with that they don't care or notice and do some more self reflection about what might have been the cause/s of your previous relationships ending.

ShinyTotoro · 2024-09-04T22:27:28+00:00

One of my exes only had one since childhood and he was great in bed. We've split up but he's now married with a daughter.

It's all in your head.

stevemnomoremister · 2024-09-04T18:45:40+00:00

When Lance Armstrong was in his twenties and just starting to win top cycling tournaments, he developed testicle cancer and had one testicle removed. Not only did he make a professional comeback (until doping revelations ended his career), he also had relationships with quite a few women.

https://hollywoodlife.com/feature/lance-armstrong-wife-5112793/

He's currently married to his longtime companion, a yoga influencer.

SweelFor- · 2024-09-04T22:44:35+00:00

I have slept with say they don’t care or don’t notice - but I think this is more or less why I am a “little bitch,” and why women eventually all get the “ick” with me.

Is it possible that this is a situation that you've invented and cultivated in your head over time, possibly encouraged by rage bait or RP adjacent content, and that isn't based in reality and facts?

zinagardenia · 2024-09-04T23:49:04+00:00

Hey friend,

First, I want to congratulate you for having the insight to realize that these blackpill beliefs are not serving you. Seriously, that’s big! It takes a lot of people a long, long time to get to that point.

I hope that you can, with time, come to recognize that the blackpill isn’t just unhealthy — it’s also incorrect… its view of reality is distorted to the point of uselessness. That said, I know it may all feel very “real” to you right now, and that’s okay. These things can take time and effort to change.

Next, I think that the IncelExit sub would be a great fit for you. I recommend reading some of the ‘top posts of all time’ in addition to asking your own question(s).

Lastly, I can guarantee that at least 99.99% of women (myself included!) would consider their partner having only one testicle to be a non-issue. (I say this from first-hand experience, too). I read that you saw women posting about how they love sucking on big balls or something? Unless that was posted by someone with some kind of unusual fetish, it was almost definitely a joke.

You might also be comforted to hear that removal of one testicle does not affect sexual function or testosterone levels.

ChelseaDagger16 · 2024-09-04T18:52:10+00:00

I’ll echo what Justwannaread3 said and get therapy, or simply talk it over with a friend you trust.

I think the issues are far more deep-seated than I’d reliably trust to be fixed on here

floracalendula · 2024-09-04T22:01:04+00:00

I'm not going to try and talk you out of having a problem with your one ball. Hell, there's a whole song called "Hitler Has Only Got One Ball". So: if you're self-conscious about it when you get naked, have you considered getting an implant? Should be undetectable forthwith. Then it's your business who finds out.

mariposaamor · 2024-09-05T09:37:16+00:00

Woman here, and bluntly.. we aren’t that attracted to balls. I love them because who they are attached to..not exactly what they look like. Novel, sure! Fun to squish? Yeah! Interesting, definitely! I like them because they give my partner pleasure and hold my future children. Not even the best balls in the world are aesthetically pleasing.. all that being said, I wouldn’t care if you had one ball. I don’t know a woman who would

causa__sui · 2024-09-05T14:13:09+00:00

The vast majority of woman could give a damn about testicles. Seriously. Like, 90%+ are completely indifferent to them. I have had seen many, many, many balls in my lifetime and not once did I ever have a substantial thought about the look, feel, nothing. My interaction goes as far as stimulating them during sex, and that’s about it!

cjgrayscale · 2024-09-05T15:14:08+00:00

Hey dude, no amount of internet strangers telling you "women don't care" will change your mind. That's an inside job. Just want to share that the way you feel is valid and it might be informed by a very unhealthy foundation from societal programming of what it means to be a man paired with the content you consume. Be kind and tender with yourself. That's probably the most radical thing you can do.

Koko_Mind · 2024-09-05T23:25:28+00:00

Relatable

IllustriousBowl4316 · 2024-09-11T10:21:51+00:00

Hey Buddy. I think you should take your time and do not follow any pillers instead you should take the way of self improvement and have your own values and stay only with people that bring you something positive in your life.

capitalG44 · 2024-09-04T18:42:07+00:00

What are you actually insecure about? Fix what you can and create systems to mitigate the downside of what you can’t change.

Title	I took the blackpill and I’m spiraling out of control now. Want change.
Author	WeWereAllOnceAnAtom
Upvotes	21
Comments	25
Date	September 4, 2024 6:05 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/ExRedPill
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