Society’s double standards in treating female vs. male perpetrators.

OddSeraph · 2024-09-22T13:45:44+00:00

"B-b-but she's only abusing the children because she's tired and overworked. Have you thought of getting her a maid? You're really the bad guy here. Why have so many children in the first place?"

All from an actual post about a man discovering his wife was hitting their children hard enough to leave fucking welts.

Or any numbers of "but postpartum," that comes up whenever a woman tries to kill her newborn.

SomeSugondeseGuy · 2024-09-22T15:02:51+00:00

I really wish it wasn't true but I've had multiple, repeated examples of this exact thing in my life.

Punder_man · 2024-09-22T19:07:52+00:00

This is exactly how things go.
Women will use past trauma as an excuse to defend the actions of a woman..
But men of course are NEVER given the same level of nuance women are..
If we even DARE to bring up the man had trauma in his past we get told that we are trying to justify misogyny.. or that "Men are inherently violent and so its not the same"

For an example of this double standard in play look no further than the #MeToo movement and specifically one of their leaders: Asia Argento who herself was one of the people who accused Harvey Weinstein of being a predator..
But of course, when a young male actor came forward with his own #MeToo story against her what happened?

People called for patience and to wait for evidence and not to leap to conclusions..
They also tried to justify it with "People who have been victims of sexual predators often go on to become sexual predators themselves" AKA they were using the fact that she is an alleged victim of SA to justify her actions against a minor..

Alternatively, look at how feminists in the UK want to stop sending women to prison and to close women's prisons..
Their line of reasoning is literally the argument above, that women who offend most likely have suffered trauma in their past and so its not just to send them to jail...

But of course, despite the same easily applying to men, they still think that men despite their past trauma should absolutely be sent to jail for "Public safety"

But yes.. this is yet one of another long line of double standards men in our society face..

RecreationalPorpoise · 2024-09-22T16:40:22+00:00

I experienced this exact thing. My mom was abusive to me and my sister, which led to my sister’s suicide. I told my other relatives this shouldn’t be excused and they said things like “oh, her heart breaks every day because of it. Her childhood wasn’t easy.”

Phuxsea · 2024-09-22T14:19:46+00:00

This is absolutely true. Brendan Depa for example went through a lot of trauma in his life, adoption, many mental diagnoses including moderate to severe ASD, and racist bullying. One day, he snapped and beat up his teacher. Now he got sentenced to 5 years in prison. When I point this out, people tell me to stop defending violence. Feminists tell me it's because he's a man, extremists on the right tell me it's because he's black.

Aileen Wuornos was a serial killer. While it's horrible what happened to her growing up, she killed innocent men along with a few scum who deserved it. I agree that it was unjust the government sentenced her to the death penalty, she should have been rehabilitated and kept for life. Still they made sympathetic movies for her.

Doesnotcarebear · 2024-09-24T04:22:36+00:00

Something something centuries of systemic oppression.

Plazmatron44 · 2024-09-24T23:29:19+00:00

As someone who's dealt with both male and female examples of traumatised people mistreating others I can say they're both awful. As children neglected or abused they have my sympathy, as adults they have no excuse and need to start acting like adults, most are lost causes though.

Title	Society’s double standards in treating female vs. male perpetrators.
Author	Financial-Cicada625
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Date	September 22, 2024 1:25 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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