Telling LTR She's Getting Fat

abdada · 2015-09-11T01:33:55+00:00

I take this kind of stuff personally.

Activate 12 levels of dread as necessary.
Start trying to lift her during sex more.
Refuse to orgasm sometimes.

Personally I approach it when I see it, but I also tell women on date #2 that I don't date fat women and I don't date women who don't hold their bodies to a high standard.

JeffsRP · 2015-09-11T01:28:50+00:00

There's a great marriedredpill thread on this, gimme a sec.

Found it

It's not quite the same issue but you get the idea. It's about subtlety.

SpeedysComing · 2015-09-11T03:30:53+00:00

Might be difficult if youre on the road a lot, but i have found that going to the gym together is pretty beneficial to both parties. Its hard for her to duck out, helps you stay motivated to motivate her, and you can easily lay on the subtleties. Doesnt have to be a big thing, even 20-30 mins. Used to go with my gf, and it was pretty cool. Sometimes itd be as simple as being there around the same time, and meeting up after to stretch or practice handstands or some shit. Ice breaker for budding relationships too.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2015-09-11T08:28:40+00:00

Simple, just tell her. Use something overt like "Babe, I was more attracted to you back when you only had one ass instead of two. You need to [start/increase] working out and eating better so that you stay sexy."

When she complains ask her if loves being fat more than she loves you. If she leaves you over it, you have just saved yourself from being in an LTR with a girl who will wind up looking like Jabba the Hutt.

When she bitches that, "But you're not buff", say "Yeah, but you have the potential to be really HAWT, whereas I'd just be a slightly more in shape version of me" (this assumes you don't lift and shit. If you don't then start. If you do, point out that there are plenty of hotties down at the gym.)

If/when she does start thinning down, praise her for it.

If she overeats, suggest that she becomes bulimic, so that she can can 'enjoy her food twice' without getting fat.

Good luck

Uncle Vasya

CuntyMcFagNuts69 · 2015-09-11T19:44:38+00:00

I imply it. Not my current LTR but my last started to gain weight and it bugged me. So whenever she would sit on my lap after she hit a certain weight I would let out a "Uffda" or just an Uff. She got the hint

McLarenX · 2015-09-11T19:57:27+00:00

The best way i've found is to eliminate her choice. Let her know you expect her to work out and stay fit. End of discussion

Bellum00 · 2015-09-11T11:25:24+00:00

Use women's speech. Don't make it about her. Make it about you, your standards and being an example for your future children.

H42 · 2015-09-11T11:42:48+00:00

Install MyFitnessPal on her phone so she can track calories. This has been helping me to lose weight.

rollhax · 2015-09-11T14:38:33+00:00

In a semi-LTR for about 4 months now. Before I met her, coming off a divorce, I lost 80 lbs and put on a lot of muscle. I told the LTR in a passing comment: "Now that I've lost all this weight, I'm finding myself disgusted by fat people."

Two days later she had a gym membership and goes almost every morning before work.

Sepean · 2015-09-11T07:13:38+00:00

First, forget about her self esteem. That's almost impossible to change in adults, and learning that her man has boundaries and getting control of her weight will be a good experience for her.

Where does this lead? How fat is she going to get before she either gets this under control or you leave her. You need to fix this. An overweight girl isn't a small thing, it will reduce your happiness for years and years, sex is way less fun and it reflects poorly on you as a man to have a low quality girlfriend.

Tell her she needs to lose weight or she loses you. Show her some proper cutting guides, most girls have no understanding of how to do this and think they just need to avoid certain foods when in reality she needs to count calories and lift (so she doesn't burn muscle).

If she doesn't start or don't get results, withdraw affection and up the dread. And results mean actually losing .5 lbs per week (when you look at the moving 2 week average, daily fluctuations are big). Don't buy into any I'm trying bullshit.

You need to really hammer this home, and if she doesn't get it next her. The risk here is that you throw years of commitment down the drain and only have a fat girlfriend to show for it. This is a huge deal and not something you should be tiptoeing around.

Title	Telling LTR She's Getting Fat
Author	bost01
Upvotes	6
Comments	19
Date	September 11, 2015 1:24 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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