Beginners question.

Super-Outside4794 · 2024-12-16T12:34:18+00:00

I would not advise putting yourself in the world of “relationship counseling” until you’re prepared to enter a space where the default assumption is that all of the problems in your marriage stem from you. Modern therapy, and actually society as a whole, generally leans toward blaming the man for the root of all problems, whether or not that reflects the reality of the situation, which it generally does not. But if you’re prepared, it could be a fun way to waste $100/hour

HornsOfApathy · 2024-12-16T13:24:38+00:00

Tell me how you could STFU and puke in counseling at the same time.

DuneThings · 2024-12-16T13:27:37+00:00

Avoid. Wives of frameless husbands love the “appeal to authority” of bringing in a marriage counselor to set their husband right.

Get your head on your shoulders (by sidebar, lift, STFU) and you’ll begin to see why it’s generally a bad idea.

The rare instance it could be good for you is if you magically found the one guy in 10,000 who doesn’t subscribe to the popular belief the more communication and chore play solve the marriage issues.

You’re in the right place here, get to work. Don’t waste time.

Keep in mind, “my marriage and family are very important to me” can be your undoing. You gotta be ready to nuke your nuclear family.

GRIZZ-3 · 2024-12-16T14:59:21+00:00

Some guys getting divorced have used couples counselling/therapy to get it documented by a 3rd party that there is no physical or emotional abuse occurring. Those records can be very handy later when you are in divorce court if a bitch starts making stuff up.

Besides that, wtf is the point? If you haven't built a frame in private, how are you going to do it with your naked ass hanging out in talk therapy?

2wo2wo3hree · 2024-12-16T16:00:20+00:00

Go to the front page of r/marriedredpill. Type counseling on the search bar and press enter. You will find all the info you’re looking for about counseling and why you should not submit yourself to that.

continuous_growth · 2024-12-16T15:19:26+00:00

I think it's a valid question. Is your wife the one bringing up counselling or is it you? Everybody here assumes your wife is forcing you to go. If she is, treat it as a gift. Go and practice STFU.

If it's you trying to force your wife to go, I think it's not likely to yield results. Blue pilled me tried that and it's just a waste of money. You're the authority, no need to appeal to a counsellor for that.

No_Smoke_7284 · 2024-12-16T19:47:01+00:00

I did it. But I had already been red pilled for about a year before heading into it. my wife needed to work through some shit that I did that was fucked up earlier in our marriage. I stayed quiet a lot listened to what could be productive and dumped the rest. I think I got lucky and had a balanced therapist.

SelectAirline · 2024-12-17T01:11:32+00:00

You're asking the wrong question. Can you do it? Yes. You're under no more obligation to DEER to a counselor than you are your wife (i.e. none at all). You could book the sessions and broken record the entire hour, you could make a big joke of it, or you could play along in earnest but only divulge what you're willing. So yes, it absolutely can be done.

Here are the questions that matter. What benefits will you get out of attending versus the costs (not speaking monetarily here)? Do you even want to go? Whose idea was it, and why does their input on this matter? What is the endgame that you're looking to accomplish, and how does counseling fit into the equation?

The first thing you need is a MAP. From there, ask yourself does x bring me closer to my desired outcome, or farther away from it? You can use that framework to answer 99% of the questions that get posted here (this one included).

enigmalogist · 2024-12-16T20:55:39+00:00

You dont see a man with solid frame does these relationships counseling

Title	Beginners question.
Author	Impossible_Run1839
Upvotes	6
Comments	29
Date	December 16, 2024 11:56 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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