Good with girls if they get put in my social circle, can't approach.

1NV0K3R · 2015-09-15T19:28:50+00:00

I'm the same way mate.

Best thing to do is just go up to her and say hello and then be retarded. You get better as you practice.

pinstrap · 2015-09-15T22:27:57+00:00

Let me ask you this. What is the worst possible scenario that could occur if you walked up to this girl and initiated a talk?

__Archaeus__ · 2015-09-15T23:32:58+00:00

It sounds like you are putting this girl/all girls you approach on a pedestal. You should be treating all women like they are at least a HB5. Remember, you're the prize. Stay in your frame. Have fun. Abundance mentality. Kick ass. And seriously..... Don't give a fuck!

0kool74 · 2015-09-15T23:56:45+00:00

"How do I overcome this beta traits and from where the fuck do I get the guts to approach girls?"

Start off by saying hi. Nothing else, just hi. Or good day...and smile. That's it. After awhile of doing this, start saying a little bit more than hi.

Your confidence is low, and you need to start building layers and layers of WIN on top of that to build it up.

TyranosaurusLex · 2015-09-15T19:04:29+00:00

I have the same problem dude... 90% of the time someone is introduced to me or they introduce themselves, or something happens that makes conversation easy. I hardly ever walk up to a girl and open just on the spot...

But I've found if im prompted by someone else to do it, im just fine at it. Maybe it's a motivation issue? Like you don't feel motivated to do it cause you know there are other women/you'll see that chick the next day. So maybe you can trick yourself into action if it's a procrastination type issue.

MightyTaint · 2015-09-16T00:00:30+00:00

Practice makes perfect. Why don't you first start trying to start conversations with strangers you aren't attracted to to develop your ability?

When I was a teenager talking to women I didn't know was scary. Now I give zero shits. I've done it so much I actually prefer to get shot down if it's in an interesting way just for the good story/lulz value. And to be honest, if it goes poorly she would've been incompatible anyway. Who cares.

It really just is something you get past by doing it until you don't care.

I_Wear_Jorts5 · 2015-09-15T19:35:07+00:00

While I have many of the same issues, I've found that once I make the initial move into the conversation, things start to smooth out and become much easier. It's like jumping headfirst into really cold water. It sucks to think about, but actually ends up being worth it most of the time. If you really aren't shy and are a decent conversationalist, you really shouldn't have any problems once you start talking. It's all in your head dude. Just remember to not take rejection too personally and don't get too bummed if the conversation doesn't go anywhere interesting

FrameWalker · 2015-09-15T19:41:48+00:00

These days I meet about half of new girls through cold approach. A reliable opener is "Hey whats going on?" inflection goes down at the end.

Situational comments and clever quips are not needed. What happens after the opener is what counts

1.) girl is immediately cold. No eye contact, uncomfortable body language. Eject quickly

2.) Girl perks up and gives a big smile. Receptive girls like this are easy. Talk about anything. Your work at the gym, finding clothes that fit, and taking care of yourself is paying off.

3.) some girls are neutral. This is where game comes in.

It's common to mess up the first 1-4 approaches by being anxious, and then do much better as you relax.
Just do it over and over again

wont_tell_i_refuse · 2015-09-15T20:32:20+00:00

Drop your ego. Approach some girls and have it go hilariously wrong.

rpendeavor · 2015-09-15T18:20:19+00:00

I think you're over-complicating it. Why do you need to compliment her on her shoes, style or facial expressions? Why not just walk past her when you get on or off the train and just say "Hey, how are you?" and keep walking. You don't have to lay on a full conversation...

Title	Good with girls if they get put in my social circle, can't approach.
Author	ImParadox
Upvotes	7
Comments	17
Date	September 15, 2015 5:13 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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