Shes never going to be happy

Physical-Aside-5273 · 2025-02-16T01:12:31+00:00

Divorce really made me learn a lot about myself and work to fix many of my flaws. It's been a challenging and somewhat rewarding process. Throughout it all I've learned that my ex wife too will never be happy. She wants me gone I go, she gets mad. I come back, she is mad that she has to be around me. There is no winning against this madness, so it's best to just not play. For your own sanity. Those who know, know.

hotantipasta · 2025-02-12T21:06:57+00:00

This was me years ago before I was finally forced to file. Talk to an attorney, get a plan together and move forward. Protect yourself and your kids at all costs. You can't help her if she won't help herself but you can help yourself and your kids. They would rather see you as a happy single person than a miserable married person.

InspectionOk3946 · 2025-02-12T19:40:50+00:00

You’re still protesting the loss of the relationship with her. Keep working on you and get to a place where her happiness is detached from you entirely. Your lack of connection with her should not affect you or your confidence as a partner or parent. You’re still at a place where it’s disappointing to you that she can’t find happiness and joy. Keep working and you’ll get to disgust at her lack of trying when you know it’s nothing to do with you, says nothing about you, and you no longer care.

No drinking. No drugs. More time reflecting and relaxing. Hang tough.

47omek · 2025-02-12T17:32:50+00:00

Don't go off half-cocked. Don't move out of YOUR home. Consult with one (or even better several) attorney without her knowing and take steps ahead of time to prepare for divorce as once it's filed you're much more limited in what you can do. Document your parenting time to show how much more involved than she is going back as far as you can remember. Consider taking a day off work (again covertly) and go down to the courthouse and watch family court in action. You might see an attorney that clearly has it together and it will also take away some of the fear of the courtroom that I think all of us had. Never speak the "D" word to the STBX and tip her off what's coming, don't file until you're 100% prepared and there's no need for a big dramatic conversation about it, either have her served or hand her the divorce petition yourself.

Helpful-Paramedic463 · 2025-02-12T13:05:07+00:00

I feel your pain. Your kids most likely know you're unhappy and what you need to think on is do you want your kids to think your marriage is what it's supposed to be?

You don't want them to be on your shoes in the future right? Do what's right for you AND them.

Will you lose money, yes. But you're buying your freedom and you'll still be a great Dad.

Title	Shes never going to be happy
Author	codude808
Upvotes	7
Comments	10
Date	February 12, 2025 2:00 AM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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