Recent divorcee needing advice

NotUsedUsernameYet · 2025-02-23T04:34:19+00:00

Why did you move out? It’s the worst mistake man can make in a divorce. Forget about assets for a second, what are your custody goals?

AirSailer · 2025-02-22T19:32:35+00:00

There are many important facts you didn't include... Such as location, home equity, your income and her income, etc. all those have an affect on what options are best.

she wants to stay in the home with the children whilst I have custody for 2 days a week.

Think about what she's asking. She's asking for the house, but she's hoping to get you to pay for the mortgage or give her you're equity; but, she's also asking to keep the kids a majority of the time. Do you think either of these is fair to you or the kids? Not to mention, if you agreed to this what downstream consequences would there be such as claiming the kids as dependents on taxes, child support, etc.

You need to educate yourself on female divorce tactics, because she probably has a cabal of divorced female friends that are whispering tactics in her ears. And I'm guessing you probably don't have many male friends (another female tactic during marriage is to separate the husband from his friends and support network) to bounce ideas off of.

streetsmartwallaby · 2025-02-22T18:05:47+00:00

I would suggest sharing the house; the kids are in it full time and either you or your wife are in it depending on whose day it is for custody.

Otherwise sell the house (she can buy it if she wants to stay there) and split the proceeds.

nickpete12345 · 2025-02-22T13:09:10+00:00

My ex was able to assume our mortgage may want to check into that if allowed. She still had to go thru underwriting but it allowed her to keep same interest rate/balance. Note: we had enough other assets where she didn’t need to take equity out. I would under no circumstances stay on the same mortgage. She’ll be homeless in 1-2 years.

bluephotoshop · 2025-02-22T10:13:20+00:00

Declare bankruptcy. Give up paying for the house. Or just give up on the house payments. I did that when my ex snd I fought. Yes, your credit will tank but it will get you out of the house mortgage. After 7 years the default slid off my credit rating, I ended up with good credit, and bought my own house in year 8. This was in the U.S. so this situation may differ in your region.

Title	Recent divorcee needing advice
Author	Michaelnuk
Upvotes	4
Comments	6
Date	February 22, 2025 9:48 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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