I'm editing this to make it much shorter.

  • Most days I'm unhappy in this marriage, don't believe it can change, so I want out.
  • Some days I want it to work, don't know how, and everything I have tried has made it worse.

I haven't lawyered up. Once I take that step there won't be any going back. She won't see it coming.

How sure were you before initiating? Half-way, three-quarters, all-the-way?