Need help letting go of the hot to the ego when you don't get the girl or someone else in the bar pulls her instead?

StrikingImportance39 · 2025-03-19T11:29:34+00:00

U go for next one.

AiSensualGoddess · 2025-03-19T14:45:36+00:00

You let go of that when you stop treating women as trophies or symbols of your worth and skills and instead start treating them as real people with their own emotions, needs, and desires.

When you see them as human beings, not objects, and genuinely value the connection, trust, and respect between you.

Stop making dating women about your worth as a man or about your need to be better than others.

CoachSlyDating · 2025-03-19T12:35:12+00:00

You are too needy if you are disappointed in what one specific girl does.

You need to reframe it as a lack of chemistry and that she has poor taste in men. Don’t ever take it personally. Your job is to find the girl in the venue that thinks you walk on water.

Stop prioritizing any one girl over the process of getting better with your social skills. You are pedestalizing this girl without really knowing her. You need to keep talking with girls until you find the one that’s into you.

I also don’t tell myself a negative narrative about it. The guy she leaves with was probably her boyfriend. In fact she was considering cheating on her boyfriend with me, and she almost pulled the trigger…

bmcapers · 2025-03-19T11:59:40+00:00

It’s a given that we have a lot of blind spots. This is how we discover them.

Crazy_Venus_Crew · 2025-03-19T17:50:17+00:00

Wait for the guy to disappoint her in bed so she comes back to the bar that same night, then make a move.

MineDesperate2920 · 2025-03-20T01:36:28+00:00

I mean it always sucks. That’s never going to change. Try to pull her and do everything you can next time. At least if she gets pulled by someone else you didn’t feel like u didn’t try

FriendlyWrenChilling · 2025-03-20T07:43:11+00:00

Intuitively, I think you're gaming like a clown. You're just entertaining her and you're not getting her attracted to you. You should learn the hook point indicators from my outer game post.

marcoo24 · 2025-03-20T23:30:30+00:00

Chill guys, this sub is getting weird sometimes.

norwegiandoggo · 2025-03-19T11:49:30+00:00

Why would you get rid of it? The bad feeling is your punishment for failing. Without it you won't learn as effectively

Title	Need help letting go of the hot to the ego when you don't get the girl or someone else in the bar pulls her instead?
Author	Magic_Bathtub
Upvotes	1
Comments	13
Date	March 19, 2025 11:11 AM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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