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Another day seeing that Black Pill is wrong

gmindset · 2025-03-20T01:02:12+00:00

Just find out that a lady who I was thinking about asking out has a boyfriend considerably less attractive than me. And I'm far from being handsome.....

gmindset

March 20, 2025

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Title	Another day seeing that Black Pill is wrong
Author	gmindset
Upvotes	39
Comments	47
Date	March 20, 2025 1:02 AM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/ExRedPill
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/exredpill/comments/1jfd1lf/another_day_seeing_that_black_pill_is_wrong/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/ExRedPill/another-day-seeing-that-black-pill-is-wrong.1547357 https://theredarchive.com/post/1547357

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I do see that too, even if it's probably be less prominent. You should learn to love yourself and don't change for others, but, fortunately, if you feel that being obese is negatively affecting your dating prospects, it's something you can change (I get that it takes a lot of effort, but in my opinion it's worth it, also for health and feeling better).

I think you drop the mentality that no woman will ever love you if you're flawed or not conventionally attractive, first of all because we're all imperfect, but mostly because this mentality hinders your confidence, your self esteem, and you're shutting down the possibilities of finding a woman who loves you. Learn to love yourself first. Grow mentally and physically. Try and find fun hobbies.

I know it may be hard, but hang in there and work on yourself! Wishing you all the best

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I see a lot of guys in this sub, or on askmen, asking flat out if it's hypocritical for them to not want to date an overweight woman when they themselves are fat.

I've also seen fat women do the same. Very few people find obesity attractive and just because you're fat yourself that doesn't mean you're going to be attracted to your weight class. There are some big women I've been attracted to, but it's very few and those women were plus sized models who are attractive in spite of their weight. Anytime I see fat people in a relationship, my assumption is that they're either settling because they're lonely and can't do any better or they didn't gain the weight until well after the relationship began. I just don't get how they can stand to kiss or have sex with each other but people get mad every time I say that.

just bc a fat chick has a bunch of men swipe right, that doesn't = actual interest in serious dating. I'd wager apprx 90% just see her as a potential hookup & not much more.

That's still more than what fat men get, which is nothing unless he's a rich celebrity or something.

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