Hi, so my STBXW of 8 years initiated divorce begining of March. Then a week of reconciliation and then asked for divorce again saying I wanted it.

Main issue was I paid 15% of the rent and paid all the household bills for that month.

I didn't pay 50% of the rent and all the household bills in addition. Also, paying groceries every month on top of all this.

Prior I have been paying 60% to 80% of the rent for the last 3 months and everything else as well.

Reason I couldn't do 50% was struggling due to paying majority of everything for 3 months. My STBXH makes $1,000 more than me if they are at work and have a full paycheck. Maybe $400 more if able to get OT and bonuses at work. My STBXH refuses to work OT.

Was going to give my X $300 towards the rent this month as I am paying everything else (minus groceries doing that separately now), but I didn't. I am going to pay to have the apartment cleaned out at the end of the month, $400 cost. So I probably put $1600 towards bills and my X put $2,000 ($400 difference.)

I feel guilty because they are not paying any of their bills. I know because I have one loan I am co-sign with them on I keep receiving messages they are 60 or more days behind. I am also buying items for the children I need for my new place moving to.

I feel I am in the wrong. Also, found out my X has two rents at the moment, secretly had a rental started sometimes in March without telling me about, but do believe they are splitting that cost with a family member.

Should I give my X Wife $300 to help with the loan? Keep the funds to get myself situated and started on the right path financially.