(M21) Im about 5’7.5” without shoes. I would probably consider myself a 9 facially, am an engineer at a top ranked university, and have good social skills with a decently muscular build.

Despite my height I don’t have a problem getting plenty matches on dating apps, and because I have a great face, girls will at least give me the time of day if I approach irl.

I just have no idea how to get the whole “desire” thing down. I’ve had a few girlfriends in the past, but none of them really “desired” me.

I am a good conversationalist so the first date or first time meeting a girl on campus (a lot of the times through a mutual friend) goes pretty well and I feel like we had a nice little chat. We might even text a bit afterwards, but all of them get flaky and I can tell they aren’t necessarily into me beyond platonically.

It just feels like im invisible as an option to girls I try to talk to. The easy excuse would be to blackpill and blame it on height, but im sure there’s something else I can do— some game I can learn, to stimulate attraction otherwise.