Is cold approach for everyone? Or is dealing with rejection actually bad for some people?

norwegiandoggo · 2025-04-21T09:52:06+00:00

It's not one or the other. Working on mental health vs approaching. He can do both at the same time, and he probably should do both at the same time.

Dealing with rejection is worked on through both mechanisms and I don't think it's ever bad for anyone

Western-Month-3877 · 2025-04-21T11:02:18+00:00

I would say cold approach requires advanced social skills, meaning that even without those mental health issues you mentioned, people are not born with those skills. Or any skills whatsoever. You learn them and gotta put them in practice.

The question is whether the mental health issue they have will hinder their skill learning process. That honestly can’t be answered by a random redditor.

But if it does hinder, I would suggest to learn an easy social skill: how to talk to your friend, how to make a small talk, how to read the room or gestures, when to talk, reply, or when to actively listen. You can’t jump into an advanced level if you don’t master the very basic one.

jackthehat6 · 2025-04-21T12:04:24+00:00

out of interest, why would having adhd be an issue? I can understand being very depressed of being very autistic would make it extremely hard to get any sort of convo going, but not sure why adhd would be an issue? I actually read that a lot of adhd people tend to have good social skills, especially when it comes to speaking to girls, since they tend to 'shoot around' and jump from subject to subject in a way that girls like and tend to do themselves. Less linear. And can also make convos less boring. Was just curious, tbh

But to answer your question, I guess social circle or even dating apps if you happen to live in a city

GENERALSECRTRY · 2025-04-21T12:38:39+00:00

the vast majority of guys l know who cold aproach are mentally ill. they have depresion, bpd, adhd, autism, come from broken homes, abused as a child, etc. and the thing is, if you were mentally healthy, why would u need to cold aproach right? you would just meet people the old fashioned way

FriendlyWrenChilling · 2025-04-21T14:06:09+00:00

This is a difficult question to answer but certainly an interesting one because it tackles two conflicting problems at the same time. When the AFC get rejected over and over again, this certainly does not feel very fun for the AFC and might worsen his mental afflictions.

Unless the cause for his mental health problems are due to the lack of abundance in the AFCs dating life, in which case the AFC should then proceed learning pickup since that will kill two birds in one stone.

If the paragraph written above is not true, then in this case I will suggest the AFC to resolve the problems that is causing the depression etc.

Slippery balance here.

KoleSekor · 2025-04-21T16:02:21+00:00

Cold approach is a skill all single guys should learn and do. It'll take more practice for some. But I highly recommend getting some guidance and support through the process so you maximize chances of positive interactions and to help keep your self-esteem in tact.

ThatDarnSmell · 2025-04-22T01:58:06+00:00

BPD is an insane mental disorder. Get that treated as best you can. My ex-wife was a "10" physically but a "1000" on the mental illness spectrum primarily because of BPD. She was miserable and made everyone else around her miserable through her constant drama. Anyone who's unfamiliar with it, start research now and make a note of all the primary warning signs. Observe for them with any woman you meet and do not ignore red flags even if she is incredibly hot.

Title	Is cold approach for everyone? Or is dealing with rejection actually bad for some people?
Author	Trippyjuice28
Upvotes	5
Comments	11
Date	April 21, 2025 8:05 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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