50 and coming around to agreeing with much RP considerations

Deliaallmylife · 2025-04-27T20:58:48+00:00

Everything around here is supposed to stem from an understanding to RP/RPW theory. There are a variety of women from SAHM's to women who are themselves the breadwinners. The main goal of the sub is to help women (utilizing RP theory) to attain their relationship goals. If that fits with what you are looking for then there is a place for you here. If you are trying to give advice from a feminist perspective or argue with the basics of the sub then there isn't.

This sub is a relationship sub. There have been women in the past who have claimed to use the strategies in the office and they are usually told to take care about doing that. Being submissive with your partner is different than being submissive with your boss. RP or not, if someone (man or woman) is spending too much time flirting/hitting on/whatever their colleagues, it's not really a good look.

RPW isn't the place for victimhood. I don't know where you can go to work through that. While we know that there are plenty of subpar men, we don't make it a thing around here to complain about men, RP or otherwise. What we focus on influences how we behave/think. If you spend a lot of time talking bad about men, it will impact your relationships with men, a thing that is not good if you are looking to have a male partner.

As far as finding a dominant/traditional/rp man there is no particular answer. You can search the sub because this question is asked a lot. And what you are asking in #4 is pretty vague. You being successful and having a lot of money is neither here nor there to most men, especially ones who are successful themselves. It may be a bonus but it's not going to get your foot in any doors. Beyond that it depends on the qualities of the man you want...if you want a religious man you go to church, if you want an outdoorsman you go wander the aisle of Cabela's.

Lets_Go_Wolfpack · 2025-04-27T20:04:19+00:00

1 - there’s room for all opinions as long as they follow the rules

2 - RP principles are generally about dating and personal relationships.

3 - Victims of what exactly?

4 - not sure what golf-guys are, but the sidebar has plenty of resources on working on your dating pool, getting, etc. They apply at any age.

LateralThinker13 · 2025-04-28T19:04:21+00:00

I’m also confused. While i agree that many couples would thrive in the captain/first mate dynamic; I also strongly believe that this should all stay out of the workplace.

You're confused because you still think that RP is a dating strategy. It isn't. RP is about seeing the world for what it IS, not what you want it to be. It is about acting without delusion. This often inspires various dating strategies, but those strategies are RP-informed, not RP in and of themselves.

Example: being dominant, confident, and aggressively pursuing your goals isn't just a male dating strategy, it's a male LIFE strategy.

While I cant claim that I’m fully “liberal” anymore as the modern version of feminism is truly toxic, I do think that we all should have choice and equal access to better our lives.

Okay, and you're saying you (or others) don't have this choice how?

Meaning, if you want to be a career-woman and are good at it; men shouldnt hold you back.

Be honest. Who keeps women back from being career-driven - or homemakers? Hint: it isn't men, it's women. Men don't CARE what you do. The jealousy/control over your life comes from other women and the simps who orbit them (i.e. nobody important).

Is there a place for a woman with my opinions amongst this group?

Sure. We aren't like the other, but liberal, groups I could mention. WE don't ban people based on participation in ideologically questionable groups.

How do you feel about RP in the workplace?

The same way I feel about it anywhere else. RP is the willingness to see the world, human psychology and biology, as they ARE, i.e. to embrace truth, rather than to cling to false, failed BP ideologies. I'll take truth 100% of the time, even when it's painful.

I’m successful and accomplished. I make a lot of $.

And here you lost me. MEN. DO. NOT. CARE. HOW. MUCH. YOU. EARN.

JFC.

I look pretty good for my age. I am not attracted to or attractive to most successful golf-guys or similar. Where do I find a man into the healthier side of RP/polarity?

That's... harder. You're 50; realistically, your dating pool is men over 50. Kids are off the table, obviously. So I'm going to go back to my old standby question I ask a lot of women on RPW:

"What do you offer men, that they want, and that other women do not?"

Just once, for the love of God, I'd like a woman to have the balls to answer that question. Because in answering it - really answering it - you'll answer your own question.

AutoModerator · 2025-04-27T18:34:43+00:00

Title: 50 and coming around to agreeing with much RP considerations

Author VisitCompetitive6774

Full text: … a little about me: grew up super liberal on the west coast; intellectual spirituality, organic in the 80s, etc. Father wasnt present. Raised by strong women; the men of that community suffered from peter pan syndrome.

I didnt have a driving need for kids; have a thirst for experience and adventure. Am intelligent, experienced, worldly. Have always been able to manifest a good life. Marriage seemed like what you did for kids, so irrelevant.

I have always been attracted to “working men;” skilled tradesmen. 1st partner seemed outwardly masculine but a doormat to everyone in reality. When a (work) threat came to me; my “switch” flipped as I knew he couldn’t protect me in any way - psychologically, financially, nothing. It was an animalistic thing that i couldnt control.

Many years went by, then 2nd partner came along which was a roller coaster of insanity that I now know was hard core RP dating strategy abuse. Dread game, anchoring, triangulation. Always trying to get me to instigate everything to trigger that “i won my prize” feeling… but honestly felt weak because he didnt state what he wanted even though i knew what he wanted.

I didnt know that that 2nd partner was RP until 3 yrs ago when a close work colleague starting acting really strange in a manner very similar to #2. Long story short-ish, turns out he was using the nuclear version of RP strategy-Shogun Method which includes subliminal messaging; NLP. Look it up, scary stuff and effective. When confronted, he briefly admitted it to me - then gaslit me and messed with my head for a year longer. It finally ended when he got a job elsewhere.

When i started to dive deep on Shogun is when i came across RP strategy and realized 3 things - 1. I was a victim of RP abuse with partner #2 ; 2. that the base knowledge of RP was correct in so many ways - HOWEVER, many of the tactics espoused by Rollo, etc are EXTREMELY abusive. 3. Men use this in the workplace for non-sexual or romantic targets. I work in construction/tech which is male-dominated. I see it all of the time; hot/cold, dread.

So now I’m single, know so much more about what i really want to give and receive with what type of man… but I’m also confused. While i agree that many couples would thrive in the captain/first mate dynamic; I also strongly believe that this should all stay out of the workplace.

While I cant claim that I’m fully “liberal” anymore as the modern version of feminism is truly toxic, I do think that we all should have choice and equal access to better our lives. Meaning, if you want to be a career-woman and are good at it; men shouldnt hold you back. And if a man want to be a stay at home dad and his wife is game; cool. I believe more in “polarity;” I’m guessing that you all know what that is.

Having good business sense and a career is the main thing that has kept me from being a statistic. And i see a lot of women end up in bad sitchs w/out access to good work. Many of us that do succeed have to dominate mediocre men doing the bare minimum to keep their rank… and they dont like that.

So, I guess my questions are:

Is there a place for a woman with my opinions amongst this group?
How do you feel about RP in the workplace?
I would like to process relationship #2 with other victims. The thing is that most women my age dont have any idea how calculated the strategy is .. and they think i’m crazy. Do you all know of groups that i could join? I’ve looked…
I’m successful and accomplished. I make a lot of $. I look pretty good for my age. I am not attracted to or attractive to most successful golf-guys or similar. Where do I find a man into the healthier side of RP/polarity ?

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CrotaLikesRomComs · 2025-04-28T12:15:19+00:00

For clarity, in #2 and #3 did they break off with you, or you break off with them?

AnonTheGreat01 · 2025-04-28T16:35:05+00:00

RP = seeing reality for what it is.

In terms of dating, it means understanding what men/women are after in relationships and what makes one attractive to the other gender & in order to get what they want.

So saying you're a RP dating strategy victim doesn't mean much. You were manipulated, I'd say, but of course I don't know anything about what happened.

Wife_and_Mama · 2025-04-29T21:56:22+00:00

Yes. I see nothing in what you've said that the majority of women here would argue against.
That sounds like a discussion for HR. These are unhealthy tactics in a romantic sense. Most RP men don't use them on true partners, but hookups. I'm not necessarily condoning that, but it's not really meant for someone you love. We advise women here to avoid RP aware men for good reason.
I don't know of any groups, but there are pretty frequent posts here where women mistakenly think an RP aware man is a catch. You wouldn't be alone.
Conservative spaces. I know you say you're liberal and that's fine, but try out some hobbies and spaces that attract more conservative men. Maybe there's a liberal church in your area, perhaps one that focuses more on spirituality, if God isn't your thing. Try volunteering for something that would attract these types of men, like Habitat for Humanity or anything in construction. Learn to shoot a gun. You'll have to get out of your comfort zone a bit, but they're out there.

maxmillius_chaddicus · 2025-04-30T06:15:47+00:00

RP in workplace is normal. We are slaves. The managers all will control you to get you to do what you want. They will hold pizza parties, gaslight you, pay you the minimum in a raise every year with a smile. They are there because they understand human behavior

Unfortunately due to feminism men needed to become red pilled just to find connection. They went looking for answers after failure, and uh, they found them. This is one way feminism has been a travesty, because it woke men up.

VisitCompetitive6774 · 2025-04-27T20:07:46+00:00

3 whoops, victims of RP strategy abuse. Missed that and will edit. Many versions go too far into coercion; extreme manipulation. Gaslighting is encouraged, etc

Title	50 and coming around to agreeing with much RP considerations
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Date	April 27, 2025 6:34 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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3 whoops, victims of RP strategy abuse. Missed that and will edit. Many versions go too far into coercion; extreme manipulation. Gaslighting is encouraged, etc