So I mentioned on here a while back about my situation. Unfortunately, things are still not good, but I am working to improve my life. I discovered some messages between my STBX with a friend of hers about how she’s planning on filing for divorce, but wants to transfer things over to her family before she files because she doesn’t want me to take her “to the cleaners”. So after a lot of thinking and discussing with a close friend and family, I ended up talking to a lawyer two weeks ago. The lawyer I spoke with was recommended by a friend whose ex-wife had used against him, and he said he was great. This week, I ended up putting down the retainer fee and signing the contract to begin filing for divorce.

I’m not looking forward to moving out in the next month, but I know that things will be better in the long run. On Easter, she acted a lot friendlier and even invited me to join her and the kids for dinner. Then over the next couple of days she was a bit more talkative. Now I know that she was just trying to put me at ease to blindside me. When I went and signed the contract, my lawyer told me that she had called looking for representation the week prior, but obviously couldn’t due to a conflict of interest. I mentioned Easter and my lawyer said that she was probably playing some game to try and surprise me. He did look online and found that she had not filed herself yet.

Before I spoke with my lawyer, I was wondering if I was doing the right thing, that maybe she was trying to slowly mend things. But after finding out she was looking for representation after being nice at Easter, I know that I’m doing the right thing to protect myself and my kids, who I will be demanding joint custody of.

Trust your instincts guys. If you feel like she might be playing you, she probably is.