Hey reposting this from r/marriedredpill

My girlfriend of 3+ years was in love with me and loyal to me and basically the perfect girl. We went through a lot together and she has supported me and helped me in so many ways.

I’ve been through the sidebar and I’ve been doing PUA/red pill for 10 years. I would consider myself intermediate - advanced.

However recently I’ve had a string of bad luck and unfortunate circumstances. Business has been challenging, had a medical issue come up which sidelined me for a while and of which im still dealing with. One old friend cut me off after I challenged them about their bullshit and they couldn’t handle it. Shit hitting the fan kind of deal.

I had an argument with my GF about her getting insecure because some girl hit on me in front of her as I was meeting some new people with old friends. I told her it was her issue and she needs to resolve that. She didn’t want me to go back to that house for some insecurity she had and I just repeated that’s her issue that she needs to resolve. Of course I went back to the house to hang out with friends.

As things escalated the next day about another argument, she said that she hated me, she’s never said that she’s hated me in our entire relationship and that hit me hard. Right now I’m trying to process it and see exactly how it triggered me and dig out that weak spot I have. Anyway I was told that she needed space and that she hated me again and could see why that certain friend had cut me off. Projecting at me that I was hurting her because I called out her issue and it triggered her.

It just looks like she’s trying to hurt me/anger me because she’s hurt. But I don’t want to deal with this behavior in a relationship so she can either resolve it or it may even be too late as it seems to be a repeating pattern. Where an issue will come up and she will resolve it but then the next will come up…

Tldr everything was great until I hit some real struggle and a low point and then I get tested by my girlfriend.

Just when you think you’re done with this process you get reminded about female nature. I guess this is a never ending process of developing as a man and continually maintaining frame.

Anyway I think I’m going to end it with this girl after this interaction. I’ll take some time to process and fix any issues I personally have before I readdress this. We travelled to a different city together and live together somewhere else. I’m just going to do what I want now and figure out how I want to move forward here.

I haven’t checked into this space for a while so I would appreciate any feedback or any issues you may see from what I’ve written here.