Girl sending mixed signals

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Fun_Character1888 · 2025-05-18T22:57:42+00:00

Whatever you do, do not, under any circumstances, “confront her”.

ceemax222 · 2025-05-18T22:30:06+00:00

Go No Contact, wait a week see if she responds. It's very obvious that right now she is showing very little interest.

Do NOT confront her. You will look like a bitch. Men are non-reactive and walk away with their head held high.

ForeverSolitary · 2025-05-18T22:32:02+00:00

It's OK to be busy and take days to respond as an adult. I certainly do.

If you "confront" her with your Excel spreadsheet of response times, she will (rightly) lose whatever interest she now probably has.

To test whether she is objectively busy or subjectively disinterested, try to set up another date. If she is open to meeting you but has many things going on, you will be negotiating suitable date, time and location. If she is just disinterested, you will get soft rejection like 'maybe sometime', i.e. something non-specific and vague.

Western-Month-3877 · 2025-05-18T23:30:54+00:00

Confront her as if she did something wrong? Your insecurity is not her problem.

24-36 hrs maybe too long for some people, but people got things to do, too. But if you think that’s too long and she’s not actually busy, ask yourself why she may not be as interested as you would hope in replying your texts.

Guys are always told to not reply too fast (the infamous “wait 2-3 days to reply” rule) simply because women have mastered the game and we basically just copy and paste their game. So imagine you’re getting frustrated because it takes too long for her to reply, maybe she’s the one who leads and dictates things in this story of yours.

Chance-Art-2079 · 2025-05-19T00:49:12+00:00

Never ever try to figure out why women do what they do. Until they become very attached to you, their feelings change like the wind. Just try to get her out on a date. If she says yes, great and just stop texting her while she's taking forever to reply.

If she won't commit to a date, then you have your answer. She just ain't that into you.

hunterpua · 2025-05-18T23:02:53+00:00

We went on a Date which i would say went very well, we cuddled and talked a lot, we were vibing good. Unfortunatly i didnt kiss her then as i didnt find the right moment (my mistake i know theres not the right moment its just she was sitting to the right of me and i always do my move with my right hand so i didnt wanna be clumsy or something)

The lead up to a kiss doesn't have to be a moment either. It's not like the movies where you stare at each other with desire or do an elaborate move to initiate it.

When I've cuddled with women before making out I just kiss them on a part of their head that's closest to me, you know, like an absent-minded kiss you'd give a girlfriend.

And since I just kissed her, I can just keep kissing her head and face until I get to her lips.

But a lot of the time they will look at you after you've kissed them on the head, when they do, you can just go straight for the lips.

Should i "confront" her about taking so long for replys? In my eyes that would just seem desperate but i dont like waiting so long for replies.

No.

When I'm single, I'm always talking, flirting, going on dates, and having sex with multiple women.

So if I find myself in a similar situation as you, it's less, "how can I fix this?" and more, "she's screwing up her chances with me" because I'm busy with multiple women, so if one of them starts taking longer to reply, she becomes very forgettable.

You met her on Hinge. It's so easy to develop some abundance with that because you don't even need to go and approach someone, all you need to do is keep liking and commenting on prompts.

After my first date with my now girlfriend, I had another girl come over to my place the morning after to hook up, because when I matched with my girlfriend on Tinder, I didn't stop swiping and was jumping from our convo to convos with other women, even as we were texting in real time.

Even as the date was getting set up, even on the day of the date, probably even for a few minutes as I was waiting for her to arrive on the date, I was still swiping, messaging, and setting up other dates and hookups.

Its really as simple as just not stopping when you get one girl's interest.

And if your conversion rate isn't high enough to be able to do that, that's what you should be addressing instead of worrying about trying to revive someone's interest.

Also, for the advice I gave you on kissing, it's better if your mindset on that is using that advice on the next girl rather than trying to redeem yourself with this girl.

TransitionNormal1387 · 2025-05-19T01:04:22+00:00

Meh, reply times aren’t necessarily a huge concern, especially on apps, or with new girls you’re dating. Flaking on dates and standing you up..that’s when it’s done.

HistorianOk2573 · 2025-05-19T01:17:08+00:00

Confronting her is basically being all petty and whiny like "oh my gooood, why don't you give me attentiooonn!!! Im so upseeeet!!!". It's not masculone, it's petty. If you don't like waiting so long just move on without saying anything. Just focus on your own life and on other girls. But whining that a woman takes too long to reply sorry that's not gonna do anyting good for you other than look needy as fuck.

If she takes long to reply is because she has other shit that is more improtant than you for her which she prioritizes. you whining that she doesn't make you a priorirty isn't gonna suddenly make you a priority. Like you've barely met her once in person and you expect her to make you a priority? Why is she even your priority all of the sudden just because you had a date? Before meeting her on the app you didn't need to have conversations and now you start getting upset because she won't text you? Man... You acting like she owes you commitment or something.

If she’s still in “hmm, who is this guy?” phase (very probable since you've only been on a date) and you’re already in “why doesn’t she care more??” phase… then you’ve skipped a few too many steps. You’re not in a relationship, you’re in a fantasy. And it’s based on ego. She doesn't care because you are still a stranger, yo u are not her boyfriend. Someone who is not your girlfriend doesn't have to care about you just because you went on a date. For now you are just an option to her, and she should be an option to you too.

You are rushing things emotionally way too fast which reveals you are needy. Your desire for certainty and clairty makes you needy. WOmen are not trying to arrive somewhere, they are trying to feel. While men seek clarity for peace, women often enjoy uncertainty for emotional tension. A bit of mystery, a bit of distance, a little “I wonder what he’s thinking", that builds anticipation and desire for them.

instead of asking “Where is this going?”, you start asking “Is this still fun? Is this still worth my time?”

You are upset because you want to lock her down, you are already trying to force her into a role she has not chosen yet. Women will only give you certainty when they feel that you don't need certainty to be ok and at peace.

Gold-Elk4014 · 2025-05-19T01:25:34+00:00

Next time escalate things physically while on the date. You need to establish this is a sexual connection and you are a man that takes charge.

Not making a move looks weak, and that’s why she isn’t showing much interest.

DreamShort3109 · 2025-05-19T02:00:47+00:00

You know, girls don’t like seeing mixed signals in guys, so why not pull away like they would?

gptamynk · 2025-05-19T03:25:59+00:00

Learnt from the exact mistake.

You should have kissed her when you got the chance or initiated something sexual(trust me, it matters)

NEVER TEXT FIRST after the date. AGAIN TRUST ME She'll be polite and respond back but you start to see the attarction fades away

Wait for 2-3 weeks and if prefer meet her in real life if there is common interaction around the way and be non chalant and she might think he is butthurt so she'll be little protective but keep your interaction short and end on high note and if you want to pursue then check her interest level. Tbh, maybe it's my ego protection but once the girl act like this I never initiate anything after that and just keep everything on the friendly,polite level especially when you are colleagues or see each other frequently.

NEVER LOSE YOUR RESPECT, SHE IS DEFINITELY GOING TO COME BACK OR GOING TO GIVE YOU HINT THAT SHE WANTS ANOTHER DATE making the ball in your court

Title	Girl sending mixed signals
Author	BankOfGreece
Upvotes	8
Comments	27
Date	May 18, 2025 9:53 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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