Long story but I will try to explain. Our relationship has been on the rocks for a while . We’ve been married 6 years , and through most of it I have always been the positive one, while she never truly happy after our first daughter. She has been suicidal in the past, ( and still gets that way sometimes ) , has had an abusive father , and a drug addict mother who passed away. I have always tried to comfort her and be her rock through it all. But after a while it was hard for me to show affection to her as she was often depressed and mean to me . She feels like she has wasted her youth and wishes we did not have kids and get married so fast. I understand that and I try to tell her we can still achieve her dreams if we just buckle down and get our feet under us. She has a shopping addiction and would spend our savings behind my back , and I eventually had to confront her . This at one point was our main source of argument, as she put us into a lot of debt . I would give in a lot and enable her to try and help her depression by paying for trips for her to get away. She eventually made me quit my job and move in with her grandma because she thought it would make her happy . It didn’t work out and we were forced to move back in with my parents . I got a good paying job , but I put my foot down and had her get a job also. She spends less money and has been working out more and doing more overall. The problem is the last year are relationship just felt even more off, and I would always be walking on egg shells. She eventually opened up about wanting a divorce and admitted she had feelings for a coworker who had pursued her. We decided we were going to try one last time , and she would stop talking to her co worker . It just wasn’t working as she was always mean to me and no matter how hard I tried being romantic it just wasn’t there . Fast forward to today, I caught her talking to her co worker behind my back and as I write this she is with him and other work friends in New York City . (Spending more money ) she says nothing physical has happened but she has feeling for this guy . I’m not sure what to do because we are still at my parents , she doesn’t get paid enough for an apartment, and I don’t want her on the streets as she is my daughters mother, and I care for her . She tells me she resents me and she’s not sure why, as she knows I’m a good person. She says little things I do piss her off. I haven’t been perfect , as I drank ( I was never abusive , but she says I would embarrass her, and it reminded her of her mom.) I did quit 2 years ago for her. I also was distance sometimes as I was tired and was put off by her attitude. Her father suggests that we move to Myrtle beach. He wants me to pay for an apartment for the girls and my ex wife to live . He says I can stay with her grandma who has dementia in the spare room, meanwhile also helping out the grandma. Her father seems to be suggesting that she should get custody as she is the mom. I don’t want to lose my girls so I’m afraid to argue. He hasn’t said anything about child support, and as of now my wife says it will be mutual and amicable 50/50 divorce and custody. She says she doesn’t want my money ( as I have little). I have also promised to pay for whatever she needs for the girls . I’m overwhelmed and not sure what to do because it sucks to see her essentially dating as we still live with my parents , but at the same time I take care of her, and still love her . At this point whenever I try talking to her she is so cold , she almost seems like a different person… So idk, just need to get this off my chest . Thank you for reading if you got this far…