I know in most situations this is not the right move. But I know she still has some feelings for me, and I won’t be able to live with myself if I don’t try with all my being to salvage this. ( even if it ends up not working anyway). We have two beautiful children , and as their father they deserve one last shot at a stable family. We also still live together. We are on good terms and I am constantly talking and making her smile. Me and my wife have been divorced since December, (papers haven’t been signed , but we agreed on a divorce, she initiated it.) This past month she admitted to having feelings with a coworker, and they have kissed. ( Maybe more , but it was after we were over, and I have my own ways of dealing with this reality.) After she admitted this to me everything became real. I have been treating her like when we first met , and she has been loving it . She has kissed me on multiple occasions, one of them being a beach getaway where she offered sex , but I declined because I don’t think we are ready for that yet . She also invited me to go to Ireland , a trip she originally was going to go alone . I can tell she feels bad about the kiss with the other guy as she cries every time we talk about it , but I know she still has feelings for him. I also know she still has feelings for me, as I can see the love in her eyes . The problem is it is off and on, and if I push too hard she shuts down and pushes me away. In February we are both moving to Myrtle beach to raise the kids near her family . ( divorced or together ) This would separate her from her new interest , and potentially be a restart on our marriage. I am planning on asking her for one more chance , and I am going to use the Ireland trip to try and spring board us back into something . I also am going to ask her to go to therapy ,( something we should have done a long time ago.) I know this situation is not ideal, and I’m prepared for it to blow up in my face. I believe it is worth it for one last chance to a happy family. From the outside looking in , should I be giving her more space , less romance / gifts . Should I be doing more , or maybe just be there as a friend . If I can survive long enough until February, I believe we will have a chance once we move away from everything . Can anyone offer insights to potentially saving the marriage. For what it’s worth she has talked about potentially getting back together one day, it almost seems she’s living through a midlife crisis, and she has a lot of trauma from her childhood that she never dealt with. Is there any hope for my family !?
Edit: Btw I am also in the best shape of my life. I started doing martial arts. I have recently made a lot of money off of investing in crypto . I plan on buying property to rent out . I have gotten a second job. I recently started playing shows with my new band . And I am casually talking to other woman and hanging out with new friends . All why taking care of my children and keeping the house clean. (I miss some sleep sometimes ) but I have a lot of energy from the heart break. I have definitely been working on myself…
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