My natural demeanor is pretty charming and flattering. I have had a few situations go cold about the time they tell me im too sweet.

This is clearly a clue. Im in my 40s and these were all 8-9 in thier early 20s that i was already hooking up witb, so definitely not ones you want to blow.

I know its partially a generational gap on communication. Any advice on how to engage, keep them enticed and flirt without coming off too sweet?