Funnily enough, as a man I'd normally think I'd be a half decent source, but for the entirety of my life if something upset me or seemed unfair I was told to shut the fuck up and that it was normal. Titles like "benevolent misogyny" are absolute bullshit to me when men are the primary victims, take the draft as an example. For that purpose, I wanted to ask you about how the patriarchy or society produces misandry. If possible, I'd really appreciate for more micro-aggressions some supporting argument. That isn't at all a challenge, but a request.

As for why I'd like to have a bit of supporting argument for smaller instances, I would like to have that backing not only for myself, but engaging in arguments against misandrists. I am about as left wing as you can get. I am practically an anarcho-communist, I want to annihilate all forms of social hierarchy where they may exist. To me, no social domination is just, as domination is not only inherently immoral but actively contributes to future oppression, even in a tiny incremental way. I am gay, disabled, atheistic, anti-capitalist, and anti-state. Now I completely understand if you aren't as on board with those ideas, I just say that to demonstrate I am extremely far left.

And yet I see misandry and even men's suffering mocked in "left" spaces. Just as a thought experiment, I simply searched the term "misandry" on BlueSky. An overwhelming majority of the responses were either "misandry isnt real," or even worse, "we can make it real." I wanted to ask for your help in identifying examples with sufficient backing as I wish to challenge these statements. I do not believe advocating for misandry is consistent within the leftist movement, particularly within anarchism, as misandry fundamentally argues for a centralization of social power within one gender over another. Even if it is the traditional centralization for men to have power over women in patriarchy, a matriarchy is still a centralization of power over others no less. Strangely, I think that makes misandry more in line with right wing ideas.

Apologies if I was a bit long winded here. I know that the hate I have seen expressed online is irrational and counterproductive to a better world, and yet it still hurts me. I know it isnt rational, but my emotions sometimes dominate my logic when it comes to such emotionally charged attacks. I struggle pretty frequently with internalized homophobia due to a hateful upbringing, and as a gay man, seeing such hateful comments can really flare that up. I know it sounds lame but if you're willing I'd appreciate any emotional support or affirmation you might be willing to give. I just feel disgusted with myself.