Together 13, married 12, 5 kids 2-10.

Spouse is DX BP1, with mixed episodes, potentially DX with BPD and ADHD.

Terms of my divorce are as follows: GI Bill (valued at +$100k) 2/3 of current savings 0% of my retirement 51/49 custody in my favor 3/2 split for Tax purposes No alimony and no CS except in times where parenting time is one sided (deployment, TDY, etc)

She refuses to negotiate without counseling prior to and a chance to get back in the work force SAHM for 11 years.

I don’t want to dissolve savings with legal fees and lawyers. Currently I have full custody due to an EPO I filed for dangerous behavior, but I’m willing to dismiss it if the conditions of an amicable divorce are settled out of court.

Lastly, she wants me to have a vasectomy as a condition for divorce.

Can’t make this shit up… I’m literally offering my GI bill (incurs an additional 6 years service obligation), most of our savings, no debt, 2/5 child tax credit, and a partridge in a pear tree… just to get out.

Any advice?