Background - wife told me she wanted to seperate 3 months ago. Mixture of me being emotionally unavailible, accusations of my emotional abuse to her. 14 year relationship, 2 young children.

We’ve had a rough 3 months, intense atmostphere in the house. Me desperate for reconcilliation - her holding a boundary to protect herself. I’ve done a lot of work already - therapy , growth …but not yet being seen.

She always wanted from the start physical space which hasnt been an option so far.

I’m not thinking of moving out, renting around the corner (so can still walk kids to school etc). It will suck, but it means i will have done everything to make it up to her. There is clearly some dynamic between us to work on but she /we are not there yet.

She told me she still hopes for reconcilliation. But clearly no guarentees here whatsoever.

Its a 6 month renal minimum, but can be extended. We’ve agreed 50/50 parenting share. She would pay the family home mortgage, whilst i cover the new place. UK based

WWYD?