TLDR: I 28 (M) got my girlfriend 29 (F) of two months now ex, pregnant. We are barely on talking terms and she is leaving the city. I have no rights until after the children are born and I have to first establish guardianship by proving I want to be involved before I get them.

Okay so I want to lead by saying I want to be in my kids lives. I say kids because she is not pregnant with not one but two children. I am having twins as confirmed by a doctor.

Backstory. long time friends (11years) who have maintained sporadic contact over them. She reaches out and we begin talking more and deeper. Eventually we agree to move in together. (after one month of talking. I know I was foolish) I drove 13hr to pick her up and 13hr to bring her back home to move in with me. First month, Butterflies.

Second month her child from a previous relationship she doesn't have primary care of comes to visit for two weeks. I take the time off work so we don't have to find a babysitter as she just started a new job. I spend the majority of the time with said child. When she is home from work I noticed and commented on her being distant with her child. That is where things turned sour. I have to make an effort to get GF to hang out with said child. Child returns to Father and her step mother. the fallowing week I return to work and notice no change in behavior around the house. I was off work so I did all the chores no problem. after a week of work and doing the domestic chores I asked for help nothing huge, Put away the clean dishes, throw your laundry in the hamper so I don't have to hunt for it on laundry day. Says she feels sick and cant help out because of that. Goes on for a couple days she goes to hospital early morning.

Early evening the same day I get a message saying the doctors found an Ulcer and that she will be staying the night at her grandparents who live not far away. I offer to drive she declines says they are already on their way. Not a problem, next day she comes home for a few hours then grabs a bag and goes to her close friends house the next town over for two nights. Okay don't want to alienate her from her friends especially when she is sick. Asks that I meet them outside when she comes back. I don't see why not, meets them all.

When she got out of the car she couldn't even look at me and didn't even acknowledge me. Just walked past and waited while I talked with her friend. We go inside. Get to arguing over text from opposite sides of the house. whole issue is that I stated that we need couple counseling to learn to effectively communicate. (I get it free through work) I am at this point after coming on four weeks of doing the vast majority of the domestic work with little affection to make it feel worthwhile getting frustrated that she isn't hearing my feelings. I tell her why are we doing this from the opposite ends of the house over text i am right here to talk about it. I walked into the other room where she was and set my phone down deliberately to get attention.

This was a trigger to her past trauma. Immediately she stands up says, "i cant do this you are triggering my trauma by slamming your phone." now I will admit this next bit was probably the dumbest thing I could have said but I was frustrated with her projecting her past relationship trauma onto me and said, "Oh, Would it have been better if I just slapped you like your ex's did?" Now believe me when I say this was never intended as a threat of violence or to mean that I would take that action in the future, but that is how she took it. I am not a violent man never have been and have a lifetime of character witnesses to back that up. she stated she no longer felt safe and that her grandparents would be picking her up.

I had a nice long chat with them when they arrived and he (GF's Grandfather) basically told me that if she doesn't want to work on herself or go to therapy I cant force it and to break up with her. Next day rolls around when I again ask to try and talk out our issues she denies them saying she feels unsafe. So I broke up with her, told her she has the month to pack her stuff find a new place and move out. She paid only fair. "I do not feel safe there now that we have broken up." Okay, fine. I send her back all her money she paid for rent and anything else she sent me that month. I also procced to pack all of her things up in plastic bags careful to wrap electronics in clothing so as to not damage anything. Bring all of her things over to her grandparents where she is staying hand them off to them in the doorway again not damaging or yelling or fighting just calm acceptance. Tell her I hope she is not pregnant as it is the last potential tie we would have to each other at that point.

A week goes by. *Ping* "Hey I'm pregnant"

I panic. try to keep my cool and say as little as possible asking for doctors confirmation. Immediately the villain for doubting her. 100 reasons why talking to a doctor to confirm is important and why would I just believe a text with no evidence and a photo that could be ripped off the internet of a positive test. or even a photo taken a half hour after the test was done for a false. Two weeks go by with no contact on my end and a stream of vitriol from her without any doctors confirmation. Get a message at 3AM "you got your wish, I'm in the hospital miscarrying." First of all I wouldn't wish that on my worst enemy and it is messed up that she would say that to me about my potential kids. Secondly I take a breath and cry as I realize I've lost the chance to be a father even in this terrible circumstance. Don't respond as this means it is all really over.

That night 7pm a text from her sister comes in. "Hey i thought you should know, She is pregnant with Twins, IDK if she has told you or not." Realize she was going to lie to me and let me believe the kid was dead let alone that it is in fact twins. one hr after I talk to her sister over the phone I get a photo of the doctors report. first real proof and confirmation of twins.

That was the Friday before last. I finally got in to talk to a pro bono lawyer today. Long story short because they are not born yet they are not people and I have no parental rights until after birth. not only that but I have no parental rights until I prove the desire to take guardianship. normally just living with the children is enough, but in my circumstance with EX moving across province my only option to prove desire to be guardian is by signing myself up for child support when they are born paying it for a few months then I will be able to apply for guardianship. once approved then I will be able to fight for contact and visitation or custody all while paying child support. Oh and if I didn't want to be involved in the kids lives i would still be required to pay child support. why are there so many hoops in the way when I want to be involved with the kids but the relationship with the mother is 'tense' at best.

AITA for not wanting to be with her anymore? And what advice would you give me? For reference she is currently 6 weeks 4 days pregnant.