How to get into the right mood before date or being social without alcohol?

hunterpua · 2025-10-01T22:44:01+00:00

If your day was absolute shit then just raincheck.

If its closer to more typical stress of a workday then what I've done was just compliment random people.

You're cold approaching but you aren't really trying to get anyone's number. Just make someone happy and leave.

Although I don't exactly avoid getting a number if I happen upon another girl I'm attracted to before a date.

Either way, I've found that giving compliments and doing random acts of kindness has been really good for lifting my mood and when I show up for dates after that I'm very free flowing and relaxed.

TheRealJamesHoffa · 2025-10-02T00:50:27+00:00

I just do it anyway if it’s normal stress or anxiety about the date itself. If you always wait for the perfect moment then you’re never gonna find it. You gotta make your own experiences and connections.

And plus if you enjoy it then it could end up being a great distraction from that other stuff, which I have had happen before. If you connect, then you’re not thinking about that other bullshit while spending time together. And besides, isn’t that kinda the goal anyway? To find someone exactly like that, where everything else just doesn’t matter?

NaturalSelectionNine · 2025-10-02T07:43:22+00:00

Don't make drinking your crutch.

You have to do the approaches no matter how shitty, helpless and weak you feel, but fortunately eventually your physiology will adapt. So it's hard only in the beginning.

As one of the guys here suggested, if you're feeling like shit, firstly don't be harsh on yourself, stay calm and do light approaches, including guys, with 0 expectations.

And once you start getting in the groove, go all in, but do NOT drink. Do not make it your crutch brother. Build yourself to be as self-reliant as possible.

Life-Income2986 · 2025-10-01T22:16:38+00:00

'Hi, I've had the worst day and I'm in a terrible mood. I'd much rather meet you in a more positive frame of mind. Would a raincheck til x or y work for you?'

thegreat4 · 2025-10-01T22:16:46+00:00

Music something smooth and relaxing

Title	How to get into the right mood before date or being social without alcohol?
Author	Frequent_Strategy_27
Upvotes	3
Comments	6
Date	October 1, 2025 10:05 PM UTC (10 months ago)
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